A friend comes to you and tells you something that could be perceived as negative about another friend of yours. You want to give them a heads up but you’re not sure you should. When is it a good time to share what someone said about a friend?
When you hear something negative about a friend or even just talk, we usually think as a friend it is our duty to share that information with our friend. Usually we think that we’re helping them or making them aware what others are saying about them to give them a heads up. Sometimes we think this because we believe that we would want to know.
Negativity is contagious and although we may believe that we have good intentions we never really know the head space that a friend could be in. We as adults have the opportunity when negativity is presented to us to either stop it there or spread it by taking it to someone else. Who knows, depending upon the type of information that we share with our friend it could make matters worse. Not only does it put you in the middle of an already tense situation it could also put you in a circumstance to where a certain level of trust would seem to have been broken by you and sometimes by the person you shared the information with. Another side of it is that it could make you look like you’re messy for sharing that information.
As adults we all know that people talk about us. That’s just a given. We could be doing all the things in life right and people will always have something to say. Having said that, the only time information should be shared with another is if someone could get hurt. If someone tells you they are going to hurt another person then yes, you should share that with your friend so that they are aware and could take the necessary precautions to safeguard themselves otherwise there is really no need at all. If it’s not productive, it’s not helpful. What other people think about your friend really is not your friends business and truth be told it’s none of yours either. If your friend is trying to live life in a positive manner, negativity is not the route to go.
If you would like to make a comment please scroll below the article to do so. Please subscribe to receive future articles by scrolling above the article and click on the word subscribe.
Save the date: The Detroit Essence of Motown Literary Jam and Conference will start on Friday, November 8th and end on November 9th, 2013. For more information click here.