Wives, have you asked yourself if your husband really loves you…does he? And how would you know? Does he send different signs or signals? Does he have a little goofy thing that he does around you? When a man is in love with a woman, he respects her. He cares about the details of her life. He treats her well.
If your guy values your opinions, compliments your character, celebrates your accomplishments, pays attention to details, and even accommodates your quirky habits. Has he ever helped you paint your nails or sat at the beauty shop for hours waiting on you. If you since that he has respect for you and the things that interest you, despite having the same interest or not, than he probably loves you.
Do you find that you’re on his mind a lot based on random connections. Does he send you funny texts during the day? Do songs, signs and hilarious headlines remind him of you? Does he Google last night’s unresolved debate on “what women want?” when he’s at work? When you become a very present part of his day even when you’re apart, he’s invested in the relationship.
Does it make a difference if he reaches to hold your hand in public? Most guys have no qualms about touching their wives in private. With public displays of affection, however, they can be a little more hesitant. When your man puts his arm around you in public, he’s both proudly announcing to the world that you’re together and making a protective gesture.
Another love gesture: when he starts offering the hugs and cuddles you crave, with no expectation of sex. He wants to serve you with physical touch, not use it just to get what he wants. If these things are describing your man, you’re a lucky women. He just simply wants to see you happy. Women often roll their eyes at men’s “fix it” instincts; and while he may not be able to fix every bad day, the fact that he tries only points to the fact that he deeply cares about you.
He wants to make things better. He wants to provide for you, practically and emotionally. He wants to make you smile. When he puts in the effort to comfort and reassure you, he’s saying “I love you” in both word and deed. Men obviously have different ways of expressing love, if they can fix or “conquer” something for you he has fulfilled his role has your man. So, let him live in the moment for a bit before you burst his bubble.
Men want to be your “man in shining armor” and your cave man in rawhide loin cloth. Listen to his word choices. When he starts using words like “we,” “us,” and “Team Awesome”, each guy will have his own way to describe the unit you’ve become, he’s not thinking of himself as a single man anymore. You’re now part of his life. And he loves that. This means good things for you.
One last thought. Does he talk about you in future tense, when he mentions the future does it sound like he needs you to be prepared in some way? Does he make plans for the future that include you? Did he invite you to his buddy’s wedding next fall? Does he joke about your future children together? When he’s got a future with you on his mind, he’s already decided that he has no intentions of letting you go.
Whatever signs you are seeing, they may tell you a lot about what he’s thinking, how he’s feeling and where he seems to think your relationship is going. Before you start accusing him of not being loving, take a mental inventory of some of the behaviors he exhibits. We all know that “I love you” is great to hear but men do have different ways of expressing that love for his wife.