When deciding to choose a local or destination wedding, you should review all the options thoroughly.
I was asked my client regarding her dilemma.
Her Issue: I am getting married next year and am struggling with the location choice. I love the beach and water, I want to have a destination wedding but my finance is convinced that we do not need to get married overseas. He wants us to find a place here in VA. I hate this area- nothing is elegant or fancy looking. I want a place that is beautiful and breathtaking with water. He does not. What do I do?
My Advice: It’s up to you to convince him “why” the wedding should be overseas. I would not be opposed to this option as long as the facts are in favor of a destination location (i.e. cheaper, easier, less stress). However, if the costs are equal (state vs. destination), it may be a hard decision. Take into consideration that guests will incur a new expense — travel. Typically, state weddings do not involve a large number of guests arriving via plane. You must begin to ask yourself, in this economy, will my guests fly to a destination and take the necessary time off? If the answer is no, then you may want to offer some assistance to your guests – adding more to your budget.. Give it some thought.
Marriage is all about give and take, and most importantly, compromise…HELLO? So why don’t you consider a wedding on a beach in Virginia. You may be surprised as to the number of lovely beach front resorts with luxurious spas there are in Virginia. Not to mention your beach destination will be accessible to your guests by car.
Now if you prefer to up the ante, and truly desire to be an “island bride” it is achievable. Consider the fact that destination weddings are often less expensive than a traditional wedding. Depending on the destination of choice, this may reduce your guest count significantly – allowing you to cut back on your budget and hold on to a little after the wedding. Some properties will even offer wedding planning packages and all-inclusive rates for your group. In the end, you both have to agree on what will work best…for you and your budget. Be sure to have a plan B that you both can agree on.
Happy Weddings, Dion