When a long-term friendship dies, sometimes you feel as though you might as well have been stabbed in the heart. You entertain the thought that physical death might also be your next option because the end of any relationship often brings about a range of emotions, from betrayal to tormenting pain. The feeling of loss is very great as you contemplate your future without someone who has played a major role in your life.
The end of a long-term friendship is often quite devastating. How many clues do you need to realize when it’s over? For Kizer*, it was finally understood when his best friend changed his phone numbers. In addition, his friend moved to a new address. Mutual friends informed him that that they were advised not to give out this new information. Kizer said he was confused at first, but there were many signs that the friendship was ending. He just refused to accept them. He stated he found himself in a fog for about 6 months. He insisted that he had no clue in the beginning why his friend wanted to completely sever the ties between them. He admitted he is now aware of the reason, but did not want to elaborate. He stated he is open to the possibility that they could reconnect. After twenty-six years of hanging together and being there for one another, you did not want to dispute this belief. In the meanwhile, he decided to continue dancing through life and being prepared for their pathways to cross again. It is a strong feeling that he has. It has been said that the heart is stronger than the mind.
You were impressed with Kizer’s final approach to accepting the death of a long-term friendship. He went through the grieving process, but he rose above all that was negative about this situation. He chose not to be bitter or angry. His friendship was valuable to him and it continues to be valuable to him. He moved on with his life. He remembered what was good about his friend and what attracted them to each other in the beginning. Those things have not changed. He has come to accept the fact that his friend made a choice. He concluded that he must accept that it is what it is.
In the end, does a true friendship really die or does it enter another dimension and awaits another coming?
*Not his real name.