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Valentine's Day Wish List
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If you’re wondering what to buy your Valentine or how much money to spend on a gift this year, don't go rushing to break the bank.

Forget buying diamonds, 2-dozen roses, and standing in line at a fancy chocolatier. Women really want you to spend quality time together with them on Valentine's. Plain and simple.

Online dating site eHarmony asked over 350 women about what gifts they’d like on the most romantic day of the year, and only 23% said they wanted a traditional gift of chocolate, flowers, and perfume. The majority of those polled (87%) said that a gift wasn’t important to them. That’s right guys. Your best bet on Valentine’s this year is to just spend time with your date, girlfriend, or wife and not ignore the day.

Think she’ll love a red teddy this year? Think again. It’s best to make your gift giving more personal, keep it simple, and stay away from lingerie. In eHarmony’s poll, a surprisingly majority of the women (97%) said anything, but lingerie.

Grant Langston, eHarmomy’s Senior Director, Social Media says you should plan ahead and book a dinner reservation. Not sure where to go? Log onto Open Table and make a digital dinner reservation, so you can find a restaurant within your budget and geographical area. Both Grant and I will be panelists in at Digital LA’s Love Goes Digital panel on February 13, 2012 talking about social and mobile dating.

Single daters on social dating site Zoosk seem to agree on gift giving, with 58% of the 1200 singles polled saying flowers and chocolates are cliché.

I’ve gone on record saying that a confident man will ask a woman out for a first date on Valentine’s Day. A smart woman will accept the invitation. Zooskers seem to agree as 72% of the men and 58% of women think a Valentine’s first date is acceptable. Think about it, if you meet your online date on Valentine’s and it works out, it’s a terrific story to share with your friends and family.

At the end of the digital day, it’s the thought that matters, not the price tag of your gift. So log on to your favorite online dating site, see who has visited your profile, RSVP for a local singles party, or crawl up with a great romance novel. Remember it’s the thought that really counts. Don’t fear Valentine’s Day. Wear red with a smile on your face and be open to the possibilities. If you feel the need to spurge, indulge yourself with something fun from our Irresistible Valentine's Gift Guide. You deserve it.

Valentine's Events in Los Angeles - Julie's Picks

Friday, February 10

Menage a Trois: Art, Lit and Love - Harlot Hair Salon, Venice

4th Annual Red, White and Black Valentine's Dance - Khoury's, Long Beach

Saturday, February 11

Unlock the Night - VIP Social Events - Boulevard 3, Hollywood

Sunday, February 12

Get Your Heart On - Rapid Dating - The Mark, West Los Angeles

Valentine's Day Weekend Party - LA Singles Society - The Hilton, Woodland Hills

Monday, February 13

Love Goes Digital - Digital LA - Hotel Shangri-la, Santa Monica

Valentine's Day 2012 Bash - Three Day Rule - Andaz Hotel, W. Hollywood

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like her at


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