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What we find entertaining matters

I personally think black women (all women in general) would be much better off not being addicted to shows like "Scandal" and "Mary Jane." Watching and admiring side chicks as entertainment is not healthy for the mental psyche. We have to be careful what we consider as entertainment. You can't tell kids not to listen to music which promotes the exploitation of women, even if it is just entertainment, and then go right ahead and watch television shows, and movies, which promote the same thing, or in this case, which promotes women sleeping around with married men. It's hypocritical to tell kids one thing, and then do the exact things you are telling kids not to do. Even a 2 year old would notice the hypocrisy. Some say it is just entertainment, and that the shows are not real. To put things into perspective, let me give you a similar outlook. We would hope a grown man would not sleep around with young girls, but we would also find it disturbing if he constantly found it entertaining to watch a show based on the theme of a grown man being in a physical relationship with a young girl, even if all the individuals involved were just actors, and the relationship was not real. It's important that we all examine what we consider to be entertaining.

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As an adult, how do you distinguish positive entertainment vs negative entertainment, in regards to you, and not your children?

Have you ever come across television shows (or movies) in which you found distasteful? If so, what specific things made those television shows, or movies distasteful, to a degree in which you decided they were not worth watching?

These questions help you learn more about who you are. You learn about your values, your moral outlook, and your ability to apply mental and self-discipline. This is pretty much the same way we deal with our children.

While introducing this idea, I received a response from a young lady who felt that my response was sexist. She charged me of not giving women credit for distinguishing between reality and fiction. She clearly missed the point. I told her that it is not about women not being able to distinguish the difference between reality vs fiction, but that it was basically about adults having this hypocritical philosophy of do as I say, not as I do.

“I want you (the youth) to make better choices, but I'm not practicing what I preach.”

There is no doubt, this article is written to specifically enlighten women ... especially those whom are critical thinkers. Anyone offended by this article may need to take a look in the mirror. Since I'm all about solutions and problem solving, a positive and productive alternative from watching such shows would be reading, dialogue, and implementing the strategies found in several of the books below.

The Miseducation of the Negro by Carter G. Woodson
http://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/misedne.html

The Souls of Black Folk by W. E. B. DuBois
http://www2.hn.psu.edu/faculty/jmanis/webdubois/DuBoisSoulsBlackFolk6x9.pdf

Where Do We Go from Here: Chaos or Community? By Martin Luther King Jr.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/38571385/Martin-Luther-King-Where-Do-We-Go-From-Here-Chaos-or-Community

The Destruction of Black Civilization by Chancellor Williams
http://www.shadesofblack.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/The-Destruction-of-Black-Civilization-Chancellor-Williams.pdf

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
http://jodilley.com/ANE/ANE.pdf

Developing Positive Self-Images & Discipline in Black Children by Jawanza Kunjufu
http://www.amazon.com/Developing-Positive-Self-Images-Discipline-Children/dp/0913543012

Evolution of a Revolutionary by Afeni Shakur
http://www.amazon.com/Afeni-Shakur-Revolutionary-Jasmine-Guy/dp/0743470540

The Power of Being a REAL Woman by Jennifer Keitt
http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2053306.The_Power_of_Being_a_Real_Woman

Hope on a Tightrope by Cornel West
http://www.amazon.com/Hope-Tightrope-Wisdom-Cornel-West/dp/1401921868

Powernomics: The National Plan to Empower Black America by Claud Anderson http://www.amazon.com/PowerNomics-National-Empower-Black-America/dp/0966170229