This is not just any outing --this could be the start of “forever.” Not to cause you undue stress, but on any first date – looking the part is crucially important. How you look can often overshadow the conversation and the mental connection during a date. It's been said many a time, but it bears repeating: You never get a second chance to make a first impression. This week I got input from Jill Vandor, Executive Matchmaker at LunchDates, a company with 30 years of matchmaking in New England to devise a list of recommendations when it comes to your “look” on a first date.
#1. Classy, Not Trashy
The goal is that both parties find a physical and mental attraction to one another, but don’t force it. Dressing in much too sexy clothing tends to detract from the mental connection and in the long run can distract from finding a meaningful relationship.
#2. Keep it Simple
Women more so than men, tend to over think first dates. We plan our outfit over and over in our minds down to the most minute detail. With that said, we sometimes are a little overzealous with all the little details. We wear way too many accessories, uncomfortable shoes and clothing that is not always the most practical. Biggest complaint that I get from my male clients...too much make up, so tone it down.
#3. Dress Up
Men tend to fall into this pit more often than women. If you are going out on a first date, make a point not to dress too casually unless the activity, venue, or your date advises you otherwise. This gives the impression to your date that you are uninterested or (worse!) did not see the value in making a good first impression.
#4. Be Yourself
The most important tip we can give you is to let your personality shine through. We do like to stress dressing up and looking appropriate, but not to the point that you mask your own sense of style. It can be tough to find that delicate balance, but it is achievable! Show your outfit to a trusted friend whose style you admire. Ask them if they think it reflects your style without falling into some of the blunders mentioned above.
According to Vandor, "Here at LunchDates, our words of advice are to always keep first dates in perspective. Yes, you might be swept away and meet the love of your life immediately – but we see the goal as finding someone who is compatible with you on a deeper, more enduring level. Don’t rush into anything but just enjoy the present – meeting a new person who may have many common interests as you do. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and what you wear -- just let the date unfold naturally and organically. Put the best version of yourself out there and with the help of our little tips, we know you are well on your way to making a great first impression."
For more of the do's and don'ts of dating, visit LunchDates online at www.lunchdates.com or via phone at (617) 254-3000.