Let me preface this by saying, I absolutely LOVE and ADORE my two-year-old daughter. She is the apple of my eye. In fact, if you ask her what part of mommy she is, she will quickly reply, “I am mommy’s heart.” Ok, here it goes, I am going to say what every parent feels ONCE IN A WHILE and stop beating around the bush … sometimes she drives me crazy. In other words, sometimes I find her really annoying. Just a “couple” of times I have had to bite my tongue or leave the room in order to keep my cool when she is singing (screaming) on the top of their lungs the theme song to Horton Hears A Who! (which might I add we have watched at least 322 times!). Come on, you all have felt it? It can’t just be me! While you don’t want to stomp on your child’s energy or enthusiasm you need to set some barriers so you both stay sane.
First, you do not need to be with your child every waking second and to be honest your child probably does not want you around them 24/7. Believe it or not, they get sick of you nagging them and in turn will start to act out and try to annoy you even more. Has your tot ever drawn on walls, banged toys on the floor, or talked constantly? Well, I have news for you, they are trying to get YOU away from THEM! Walk away and give both of you some space.
Second, be your own person. Find passions and hobbies that interest just you. Go out with your adult friends, get a massage, play tennis. Whatever floats your boat. Do something for yourself. You will notice that you find your children less irritating if you have had time for yourself. You are going to have different interests than your tot and vice versa.
Lastly and most importantly, it does not make you a bad parent if you need some time away and it certainly does not mean you love your child any less. Being able to take time away shows that both of you trust, respect and value each other. By taking a minute, an hour or even a day away you will feel rejuvenated. In turn you will be less stressed and will be a more patient and tolerant parent.
Parenthood may drive you bonkers, but at the end of the day the craziest phenomena is … you wouldn’t have it any other way.
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