Many parents would do anything possible to protect their child. Unfortunately, some are just naive when it comes to preparing their daughter for the outside world. They spend thousands on dance lessons, music lessons or sporting activities. In addition, they send them to the right schools and attend religious services. Although these are all very helpful it is just not enough.
Times have changed and there is just more needed today then there was twenty years ago. One critical problem that is currently a national epidemic is low self-esteem in young girls.
Rule # 1
If you truly want to empower your daughter then never yell at her. This shatters her self-esteem and renders her unconscious. It will also subject her to an unhealthy future relationship. A man that yells and shows disrespect will just seem normal to her cognitive schema. Many parents are clueless on the long term damage that yelling does to a child. It can actually create an abandonment disorder. Once a child “hears” she is not loved in her perception the damage can last a lifetime. In addition, they will look to the outside world for instruction when disrespected at home by a yelling parent.
Rule # 2
Never compliment one child in front of another! The other child will often make assumptions based on the comparison. If Jenny is praised for her outstanding scholastics achievement then Molly assumes she has none. It is critical to never set limits on a child’s potential! Compliment the child when you are alone with her.
Rule # 3
Daughters need to be prepared to enter the dating world. The high divorce rate leaves many girls starved for any type of male attention. This can be a set up for an approval addiction. The daughter will do anything to get male attention. Many young girls are enticed into drugs by their boyfriends. A highly physical daughter is at great risk of this scenario. Why not drug test any potential suitor who comes to the door? A boy with good intentions would only respect the best for your daughter. Many urine tests are available at your local drug store.
Rule # 4
Many parents lack proper parenting and discipline skills. Why not sit down with your child and together set out the consequences of what will happen when curfew is broken. This will help the child feel loved and in control of her life. Passive parenting is where there are no rules or consequences. This makes a child feel unloved. In addition, there is no need to yell when curfew is broken since the consequences are already known. Parents who rule by fear will only get a child who will never come to them with their problems.
Rule # 5:
Many girls are just not taught how to screen a potential suitor. When young, many are only on the physical level when picking a relationship. Daughters must be taught in advance to run when a boy who enters their life tries to change them. In addition, any male who criticizes her body must be discarded right away. A narcissistic male can ruin your daughter’s self-esteem. He can make her feel that no other man would want her by the time he has done his damage! Narcissist’s rule by control and making her feel incompetent! Instruct her on what it looks like when one enters her path! A daughter with an approval addiction can very much be a set up for a narcissist. The faster you train your daughter in advance to notice when someone is trying to change her the better. Protect her future in advance!
Rule # 6:
Recognize the trolls:
A troll is a guy who only wants to use your daughter as a physical body and could care a less what damage he does. The naïve girl misinterprets the physical attention as caring. Teach her some skills to be more aware of her mate selection. Why not notice how he treats his own mother? Does he have respect for her and remember her birthdays? A man who forgets his own mother has not been brought up properly. Is he in control of his emotions or does he anger easily? A boy who shows disrespect towards his own mother will rarely respect her!
Unfortunately, the high divorce rate is leaving many girls without much male guidance. This also leaves them starved for attention. Many young girls just have no idea what love even looks like! Any attention seems better then no attention! Many assume that physical attention equals love!
Protect your future by educating your daughter!