We all have a love language and many of us don't know exactly what that language is. What is a love language? According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, and The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, love languages are way in which we show love to one another as well as the way we receive love.
The five languages are, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
Words of Affirmation: Hearing positive words that would otherwise boost one's ego are considered Words of Affirmation. Telling your spouse that she looks great in a new dress, or telling your husband that he did a great job building that bookshelf you always wanted, are great examples. Verbalizing your love for your spouse is another example of Words of Affirmation.
Quality Time: How many times have your heard someone say, it's not about the money or the gifts but the amount of time their spouse spends with them? This is time spent with your spouse or significant other where your attention is solely on them. With busy lifestyles, this may be difficult, but it can be done.
Receiving Gifts: Women's faces light up when they are presented with a new set of diamonds, the latest perfume or something they've had their eye on for a long time. Some men may be appreciative upon receiving a new set of golf clubs, a new sports jersey or tickets to a sporting event. Yes, receiving gifts, believe it or not, is a love language.
Acts of Service: You've been cleaning house all day, cooking and tending to the children and all you want is a break. Your husband comes home and tells you to take a hot bubble bath and enjoy a glass of wine while he takes the children to McDonald's. A husband might be grateful when he was sure that his favorite shirt was in the laundry when he wanted to wear it to a early morning meeting, only to find that that very shirt had been laundered and starched and waiting for him in his closet. Women love the fact that their husbands always make sure that there is gas in the car, while husbands are thankful to come home to a tasty, home cooked meal.
Physical Touch: Displays of affection are important to some men and women and it's the assurance that they need that their spouse cares and/or loves them. Make out sessions that don't necessarily lead to sex or something as simple as a stroll in the park, holding hands, and feeling the warmth of each other's souls, is all it takes to make someone feel loved.
You can find out your love language by purchasing The Five Love Languages: The Secrets to Love that Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman, or you can take a few moments and complete The Love Language 30 second quiz.
In addition to The Five Love Languages for married couples, Dr. Chapman has also written, The Five Love Languages of Children, The Five Love Languages Men's Edition, The Five Languages of Apology, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers and a host of other relationship books.
Find out your love language and start improving your relationships today.
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