What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? My definition of loving someone is a genuine unconditional care for that person’s well being and that feeling doesn’t go away if it’s true but being in love is a feeling that can be flaky. It can come with a force and have you dizzy; a cloud nine feeling that you never want to go away but most times it does. That’s not to say that it won’t come back but it can definitely fade away with time. Being in love is that passion you feel with every kiss, that butterfly in your stomach when the phone rings and you see that it’s him or her and that smile that starts to form on your face without you even knowing, when you see that person. Being in love can last for months, weeks or years and still one day leave you wondering what the hell happened. I believe that loving and being in love are two separate emotions but tie into each other so well. If you love someone then being in love is totally up to you. You can get those butterflies back if both parties are willing to do the work. I fear the women and men of today have lost sight of what the meaning of love really is, it’s not just that cloud nine feeling. It’s also that feeling of security, never having to turn around because you know that person is there with you. For the ones that don’t know that; once being in love becomes boring to them; it fades and then so does that person. We are in a time where people are treated as disposable objects in matters of the heart but that’s because some people just don’t respect the art of love. Relationships are not lasting and have become more of a liability than an asset to the ones that don’t put forth the effort. Evaluate yourself and the relationship you’re in and even the relationship that you’re not in. How important is love in your life? Once you figure that out maybe you can then figure out what to do to keep it and if you don’t have it; how to get it. True love is easy to recognize, if going a day without seeing or talking to that person is impossible for you then that’s your first step. You can go from there and build a solid foundation of love. Once attained, you can fall in and out of love over and over again as many times as you like without damaging the bond that is between you both.
August 31, 2013