Husband comes through the door and asks his wife how her day was. She responds that it went fine despite the high speed chase, the burial and the explosion. He casually nods and says, "You win some you lose some right?" and parks himself on the recliner just in time for his evening program. We just do not listen sometimes. It is not only his fault though. It can be a combination of many things. It is a fast paced world out there. We are short on time and abbreviate in order to communicate. Our 3 or 4 minutes of waiting in line is described as 30 to 40 billion years. The news is negative and confirms our ever declining government, economy and morale. You are desensitized, overstimulated and paranoid. Most people are terrible listeners. We like the sound of our own voices and listen long enough to carry out necessary commands. Some of the best speakers in the world are exceptional listeners." Sacred Listening. Research on listening indicates that we spend about 80% of our waking hours communicating: writing 9%, reading 16%, speaking 30% and 45 to 50 percent of our day engaged in listening, to people, music, TV, radio, etc." How much of that listening is actually active listening is another story. Practice listening better. The next conversation you have, respond and reiterate what the person is saying. It shows the listener you are listening.
October 3, 2013