Ok, it’s Jan. 2nd. and time to come up with some resolutions. We always start January off with a bang, promising to lose weight, stop drinking, curb smoking, etc.
But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed that my boomer pal’s wishes have taken a more philosophical turn, especially as we start dealing with our parent’s demise, work and finance issues, and of course, our own health challenges.
Dealing with aging parents is very hard, but it’s something we all have to endure. I lost my mom to lung cancer in 2000. It wasn’t easy. One friend of mine simply hoped that her mother would remember to call her on her birthday. She was elated when it happened.
Other’s wishes center on finance or jobs. Who hasn’t been a victim of age-related job discrimination? I remember getting laid-off right before my 50th birthday, and I knew that getting back into corporate life would be tough. Wanting work that validates your experience doesn’t seem like asking for much, but many who are of a certain age find it very hard to find employers who will give them a try.
Health resolutions seem to escalate as we’ve gotten older. Good health is certainly something many of us want for our loved ones and ourselves. We can’t take it for granted like we did in our 30’s.
Many of my pals are having a tough time. When I’m feeling sorry for myself, all I have to do is look around me to see that so many are having many more challenges than I am. I then feel very grateful for being where I am right now. Things could be worse.
As for my resolutions? I’m going to try to be younger this year. I want to face my fears more than I have in recent years. I want to get out of my safe routines a bit more. I want to be a bit more patient and optimistic. And I hope that my friends and family members have better times ahead.
Life isn’t always easy, but in general, I’m trying to live in the moment a bit more, and realize that the future hasn’t happened yet, and the past is behind me. In doing so, I’m enjoying what I have now, and all the simple joys of the present. So far, it seems to be working.
I wish all of you a Happy New Year, and hope that whatever your resolution, that your dreams come true.