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What do you really want?

One of my favorite television series is The Good Wife on CBS.

What do you want?
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I have missed quite a few seasons so recently I went back on my Roku device and started watching from the first season.

The show is very interesting as it involves a Chicago States Attorney who commits infidelity which is linked to corruption and gets him six months in jail but it is appealed and ultimately overturned.

The program involves every aspect of life dealing with marriage, child rearing, relationships, penitence and repentance, the law, politics, commitment and second chances.

The series is now in its fifth season and seems to get better all the time but from season one till present the question is constantly asked by the characters in the program of each other, “What do you want”?

It is quite an amazing theme the writers and producers have embedded into the show.

It doesn't matter what the scene or the episode, the theme is always there; rather direct or indirect, “What do you want”?

In the viewing of this program, my unconscious mind was filled with decades of counseling experiences where the session ultimately reverted to me asking the patient, “What do you want”.

It’s the question most of us ask either consciously or unconsciously throughout life; “What do I want”, “What do we want”, “What do you want”?

What do we want from life? What do we want as a career? What do we want in a relationship?

The question is overwhelming to the vast majority of society and even to those who truly believe they have it together, have life all worked out and know exactly what they want and expect, they too are often faced with the dilemma of “What do they want”?

I've asked the question of others and myself many times.

My conclusion concerning this very important question is that it can be life altering and life shattering. So, be careful both in asking and in answering.

I have looked across my desk many times at a patient and knew even to suggest the question was like rubbing the proverbial magic lamp and watching the Genie pop out ready to grant their three wishes.

The wishes (or answers) could be good or bad and could go either way in developing or destroying their life and maybe the lives of others.

Remember that just because we want something in our life doesn't mean we need it or that it is even good for us.

Most people will answer the question by saying they want wealth and/or fame; yet many people that suddenly get wealth and/or fame can’t actually handle it.

Just ask the lottery winners who became instant millionaires only to lose everything from finances to family or the athlete who makes it big only to have his career end after only one big game.

The Bible says, we have not because we ask not and many of us tend to either ask for the wrong thing or we simply don’t ask at all.

After telling the parable of the rich man that built many barns only to die upon their completion, Jesus said, “What does it profit a man to gain the world only to lose his soul”? The idea being that your personal desires can over take who you really are and destroy the genuine you; you might not physically die like the rich man but the real you could end up spiritually and emotionally dead.

The bottom line is because we all ask the question, “What do you want”, we need to be careful with our answer by thinking and praying it through.

Jesus knew we asked this question of “What do you want”?

That’s why He said, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened”. (Matthew 7:7-8).

So the question remains, “What do you want”?

© 2014 Dr. Lee W. Outlaw III