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What daughters write about senior citizen moms health and speech in social media

Why are so many older women victims of 'roastmasters' among their own daughters, but rarely their sons? Is it supposed to be good humor with a barrage of brutal jokes, or a cry for help that embarrassing the older woman who is presumed not to be reading Facebook quips about them by their kids? How often do writers use 'action' verbs instead of 'roasting' humor (nouns and adjectives) when depicting older adults in social media?

What daughters write about senior citizen moms health and speech in social media.
Anne Hart, book.

Some young men (and women) get in the 'face' of older women by asking them why do you keep talking or writing when you're so old that nobody wants to 'mate' with you anymore? It's one way to silence older women from putting their thoughts in books, podcasts, or articles. But when referring to older men, it's more like "none beneath the 'king' can have this woman." Or if the older man has less cash, it's "hi there, old timer. Hurry up in your step because you're walking too slow to board this bus."

Or "senior drivers are too slow." In each case, the older person is diminished as if to silence the person, with more about silencing the older female. Walk in the street as a woman with white hair and soon a young man on a bike stops you and says, "Are they looking for you?" He automatically assumes you're wandering with dementia, and the loudspeaker on the helicopter above is talking about you, personally. Only you're simply walking home from your usual work, appointments, or other chores.

What do seniors dislike most about what their children and grandchildren post online relating words the older adults say?

It's the 'habit' of posting what the kids think is something 'cute' but really puts the senior down as a competent professional in the eyes of the public to get a chuckle or other response out of the viewers. The vignette or anecdote about what the senior says or does doesn't present the older adult as a wise elder in that person's field of accomplishment.

You may wish to check out the article, "The Audacity of Sarah Silverman Being a 42-Year-Old Woman." If turning 40 is a big deal, what about our group soon turning 80? Interestingly, it's the daughters over age 40 who frequently write about their moms in social media detailing the mistakes in use of words (or behavior) of their own mothers that happened in private at the dinner or kitchen table. But they rarely write about their dads, unless the dads were violent or frequently angry and controlling. Exceptions would be to share the wisdom of their dads words but more often to share the errors of their mom's words, when it comes to publishing on social media, such as Facebook various daily interactions with their senior-citizen mothers.

The older woman as sharer of life experience

A field of accomplishment could be anything from the ability to share knowledge, experience, and wisdom in a given area of life or in caregiving, such as raising a family to make wise choices. But when the professional daughter or granddaughter in an area such as science or authorship repeatedly (or even one time) publishes a situation that in any way diminishes the wits, wisdom, or life experience of an older relative, it brings that person down while lifting up the adult child, subconsciously. You may wish to check out the book: Ethno-Playography: How to Create Salable Ethnographic Plays, Monologues, & Skits from Life Stories, Social Issues... by Anne Hart (Jul 27, 2007).

Only the adult child thinks it will get an emotional reaction, a rise, chuckle, or chortle out of the audience for saying something humorous (but sometimes nasty) to make the older adult appear less competent than the child. Unfortunately, the act usually is about a daughter saying her mother said the wrong word or behaved unacceptably, made a mistake, or acted more childish rather than child-like. You may wish to see the novel, How to Start Engaging Conversations on Women's, Men's, or Family Studies with Wealthy Strangers: A Thriller by Anne Hart (Mar 29, 2007).

Daughters often write about older fathers differently than they write about older mothers

Almost never or pretty rarely would a daughter comment about some mistake in a word or behavior made by her father, unless the daughter is writing about a specific condition, as in a daughter's fear of her father's elder rage which preceded dementia, her father's violence or anger issues due to thickened carotid arteries, or other physical issues resulting in a man's anger outbursts. Instead, most postings are a daughter's comments about her aging mother's mispronunciation of a word, behavior, or comments that diminish the wise elder imparting experience and/or knowledge to the daughter. You may wish to check out the article, "Sexist Comments About Women - What are the Rudest, Nastiest."

Those usually who pick up the trend first are over-age-75 female science writers and part time researchers and tutors or other professionals still engaged in working at a profession, hobby, or volunteer occupation whose income depends upon their competency in scientific subjects explained with clarity in journalism and part-time independent editors in the same age group who emphasize accuracy, spelling, grammar, and fact-checking. Why does it make younger people angry at an older person who in some ways remind the younger person of their own mortality?

Images of professional women as they age

Professional women working even part time, volunteer or for-pay, who are senior citizens object to younger women publishing the words said in private by their older adult mothers. You rarely find these same daughters (or sons) publishing words uttered by their fathers. You may wish to see the article, "Top Ten Things That Make a Woman Threatening to Other Women."

A typical example would be the Facebook quips of a female professional, scientist who writes online about what her mother says at a family gathering, showcasing the older adult mom using the wrong word in a sentence. The father slams his fist on the table, correcting his wife's word. Okay, the mom used the wrong word. The dad corrects her because the wrong word is some lethal chemical you don't take as a vitamin. Only it sounds to the ear similar. There are numerous people who enjoy putting someone down to lift herself or himself up. You may wish to check out the article, "'Mean girls' mothers create Facebook group criticizing 'ugly' children."

How older woman are portrayed in social media if they make a mistake in a choice of words

To look behind the situation might be that in an aging, shrinking brain, hearing words that sound alike simply sound alike but refer to two different objects, one a vitamin, the other a nasty chemical that doesn't belong outside a chemistry lab....but to an older person, the words easily can sound similar. But why analyze the possibilities? The point is you don't have to put your mama's mistake on word-play online because it diminishes the mental faculties of older adults. You may wish to see the site, "Shocking: Woman bullied to tears by children on schoolbus."

And for female science writers of the same age whose job depends upon fact-checking for accuracy, it makes an older person appear less competent when it comes to distinguishing between vitamins and dangerous lab chemicals. It's just not polite or good manners to put down an older woman's misuse of a word online to get a chuckle from the audience. An older woman who seeks to appear as competent to the public doesn't like to see older women diminished in wits or vocabulary online in a public social media setting like Facebook. At least case histories in scientific journals don't mention the names of participants in studies and clinical trials.

Fine. The scientist made her point...but at the expense of diminishing the status online of her older mother while raising the status of her dad who corrected his wife's use of the wrong word for a certain vitamin. The point is older men are rarely made fun of online for words they utter at the family table, a private setting. Older men may be referred to by critics as rambling or running on at the mouth when they publicly give a speech.

How older men are sometimes portrayed in social media when speaking publicly

Or they even may be called doddering in public, but the critic observes these older men speaking publicly, earning their living giving talks on any given subject of their expertise. It's one situation to be a man and be called rambling in a public speech. But it's a whole new game to be a woman sitting privately at the dinner table and saying the wrong word at a family meal and the next day have the whole scene publicly portrayed by an adult child on Facebook, by a child who's a scientist or novelist who ought to know better.

The female scientist could have used another example that doesn't put down the older mom and raise up the older dad in status to emphasize that when two objects sound similar, one is dangerous and the other is a vitamin and although the sound alike, are spelled differently, please don't mistake one for the other. When are children going to write about their older female (and male) parents equally as intergenerational wise elders? Some people get older but not wiser, say some of their children. Nevertheless, life experience teaches most people that they either keep making the same choices (or mistakes) repeatedly or they learn from their life experience, transcend it, and move on to sharing universal values that we go through at each stage of life with the rest of us.

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