Are you ready to spice up your sex life? Do you want to enhance your sexual repertoire with some fun and sexy tips? You want to blow your lover’s mind with some amazing techniques? Is there something about sex you’ve always wanted to know but did not know who to ask? Well you’ve come to the right place! Every week I will answer your most intimate questions regarding sex, sexuality, love & relationships! If you would like to have your question answered, please email your question(s) to email@example.com and I will include it in my weekly Sexpectations post. All questions will remain anonymous.
~Sexpertly Yours, TaMara
Q. My daughter is hanging out with some girls that I think may be gay. Should I be worried that they will turn her gay? I don’t know why she's hanging out with them.
A. There's no need to worry that THEY will turn her gay. People cannot be lead astray by exposure to sexual orientations or behaviors if they don’t already strike a chord with their EXISTING sexuality. As for why she may be hanging out with this group of girls, this is a conversation that you may consider having with your daughter. Only she would have the answer to this question. Try to listen to her with an open heart & mind. She may just actually like hanging out with this group of girls because they have fabulous personalities and are genuinely amazing girls. Keep in mind, people are so much more than their sexual orientation or preferred sexual behaviors.
Q. I keep hearing about the "male g-spot." What is it & how do I find it?
A. The prostate is considered to be the male G-Spot. When stimulated, it can provide an intense orgasm for him. The best way to reach and stimulate the male G-Spot is through the anus using either WELL LUBRICATED finger or sex toy. A less intrusive alternative way to stimulate the male G-Spot that doesn’t involve anal penetration is to gently press on the perineum - the spot between the testicles (balls) and the opening of the anus.
Q. I notice changes in my vaginal lubrication is this normal?
A. The amount consistency, texture, taste, color, and odor can change depending on sexual arousal, the phase of the menstrual cycle, the presence of an infection, certain, genetic factors, and diet. It is important to become intimately acquainted with your vagina’s normal lubrication, so if there’s a noticeable change in color (i.e. greenish yellow, grayish), consistency (i.e. clumpy white, too runny) and smell (fishy, foul) you can contact your physician to check for a presence of infection.
Q. Why do men fall asleep after sex?
A. It's a great work out, good & he's happy! Also after orgasm, both men and women release the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, GABA and endorphins. All of which contribute to that overwhelming desire to sleep and snore.
Q. Why does it seem like I'm so attached to the people I have sex with? It's like I feel bonded to them.
A. Because you are. With every sexual act there is an exchange of energy as well as hormones secreted from the brain that keeps us bonded to that person whether we want to be or not. The only choice we have is how we respond to it.
Q. Why is it sometimes easier for a woman to orgasm through masturbation than by having with a partner?
A. Most women who masturbate spend time touching and exploring their bodies. They know exactly how much and exactly where to stimulate themselves in order to receive the most sexual pleasure.
Q. What causes a woman to get "wet"?
A. When a woman gets sexually aroused, the pressure of blood filling in the vaginal tissue actually pushes the lubrication into the vagina.
Q. Why are sexually transmitted diseases so high among teenage girls?
A. Young women in their late teens and early 20s are more susceptible to sexually transmitted infections (STI) because their cervical cells begin to change and mature more rapidly around this age. It is also the time that young women begin to experiment more with sex. Lack of proper comprehensive sex education that addresses not just the physical aspects of sexuality but also the emotional aspects and includes: self-esteem, condom use, abstinence, communication, values and decision skills and cultural pride is also a culprit. All these factors play a major role in the transmission of STIs. This is why it is so important to provide proper sexuality education and to make sure that young women get their annual exam at age 15 or as soon as they become sexually active.