Welcome Love!
Part 5
Please do not marry someone without first taking the time to get to really know them! When you marry someone you are supposed to be committing to be with them for the rest of your life! So take the time to see how many of the same values you share … Too many marry without really getting to know their spouse! It is important not to get caught up in the idea of marriage. It is important to have some serious discussion before you say “I DO!” it also gives you a idea of what happens when you don’t agree! It is quite difficult to build intimacy and transparency with someone you don’t really know or trust… You are not able to share your feelings openly!
If you are not already married you are in a good place to start out right! Not everyone gets it right the first time! Be encouraged and set some goals for yourself this time! Don’t compromise yourself especially since you already know what does not work! Keep in mind what type of person you would like to spend your life with! It is important that you share basic core values! What do you have in common? What do you both enjoy doing together?
A good relationship takes time. When you decide to marry it should be for a lifetime! Together your goal should be to build a growing, loving, trusting healthy marriage! True Love is Eternal! If you are already married it is not too late to start now. The vows you made are more than mere words. It is important that you together begin to address any unresolved issues so you can move forward building a strong healthy marriage!
You can build intimacy by being transparent with your feelings and your emotions! It is important to talk to one another! As you confide in one another you are able to build trust that insulates your marriage! You learn to share the core of who you are! Openly display affection to your spouse! Make it a priority to allow true love to prevail! It will help you weather the tempestuous storms of life! It will also make for a joyful marriage journey the majority of the time! True love will last forever…
If your marriage has been in a rut make some changes! It takes a positive and negative power to start an engine! Look at your battery cables! So in order to jumpstart your marriage you will have to talk about things that may be considered negative! You know those things that are bothering you lurking in the background… This does not have to be! Push through the pain and be mindful of your words. Share your heart with your spouse! You cannot change anything that has happened! But you can release the toxins of resentment and solidify your foundation! You can agree to work together from now on… The objective is to experience positive results! Your desire should be to cultivate transparency, bond, strengthen love and build an increasing trust and intimacy! This will also enhance your physical intimacy!
Emotions and feelings are real and should be acknowledged! But they should not always dictate how we respond! Trust breaks down your defenses and helps you to be more open! It is just as good to have a good cry as it is to have a good laugh! Balance is key! Do not manipulate with your emotions… It is never good or okay to physically or emotionally abuse anyone! We must regularly take a personal inventory of ourselves and commit to improving our communication skills and relational dynamics. Keep in mind that you married this person to build a lifetime lasting committed relationship with them! If you have lacked good marriage role models become one yourself! Don’t use the past for an excuse! Remember it is safe to look in the rear view mirror but you must focus on driving going forward! Make some goals for your marriage!
Begin to make it a habit of complimenting your spouse daily! Be sincere! Make regular love deposits! It is important to have a weekly marriage date! Enjoy one another! This also helps you to get to know your spouse better! You should know more than anyone else what your spouse likes! Spending quality time together helps! Then, whenever you do disagree you have deposited enough love deposits to prevent your marriage from becoming overdrawn and falling apart!
Sincerely honor your marriage vows and The Lord will shower His blessings upon your marriage! Did you know that marriage is the first institution created by God? When you honor your marriage you honor God! Life is precious and time is valuable! You do not have to spend the majority of it unhappy and unfulfilled! In a Great marriage you can be fulfilled and find spiritual, emotional and physical satisfaction! Start anew today! Refresh your Love! Make building a better secure marriage together a priority! A marriage worth taking the time to care for is worth having! Make it a point to“Welcome Love!”
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