DIVORCE! The dreadful word that no married person wants to hear. People get divorced for many reasons, but a common reason is that people tend to “grow apart”. Their spouse is not the same as they were in the beginning or they got married way too young. Well, how young is too young? Age plays a part in marriage, but maturity plays the leading role. When two people decide to make a life long commitment, at any age, they should be ready to work together to keep that commitment. When couples are younger, some tend to think that if it does not work out they have enough time to find someone else. Going into a marriage with that mindset is what dooms them for failure.
Growth in a marriage is essential. Couples need to set goals for themselves, jointly and individually? It is important to remember that as a unit, setting goals together helps both people work towards a common purpose and lets each other know that they are in the marriage long term. If one spouse is focused on family, stability and the future, and the other spouse is focused on everything else but home, this could possibly be a sign of immaturity. Two individuals are not always going to grow at the same rate, but if they are at least headed in the same direction, they will always know they are not on the path alone.
Being a young couple does not mean that the marriage will end in divorce. If both people are willing to work from day one and realize that there are going to be those times when they are not going always be in sync with one another, they may stand a surviving chance. If they can support each other through the changes that each other is going through, they will be stronger in the end.
Growing apart may be a reason that people get divorced, but they have to remember, they were a separate unit before they were married and they found a way to become one once, they should be able to do it again.