I am a bad loser, when it comes to any game or competition. I hate to lose so much that I would prefer to pretend that I have never played Monopoly; then admit that I lost to my husband. So it is not surprising that when it comes to my everyday life I choose not to play games. I especially avoid games in relationships, after all games in relationship can hurt a lot more then pride. In my opinion the first game that both men and women need to stop is the "friend zone". I do not believe in the friend zone nor have I have participated in zoning. I would like to share the story of my friend, Jeff.
Jeff spent years chasing after a girl. The sun and moon set with this girl, she could do no wrong. She spent years telling him what a great friend he was, while she would see other guys. She would also constantly sleep over, in the same bed with my friend, half naked. All the while she thanked him for the friendship, hugs and he thanked her for his "blue twins." Every so often Jeff would grow tired of the sleepovers and then she would give him just a sliver of hope that something else might happen. This was presented to me by Jeff, and all I could ask myself and him was "why?"
Jeff told me that he loved her and one day she would feel the same way. He went on to tell me that he just needed to be there for her and it would pay off. (/awe.) I, a hater of the zone went on to present points to Jeff in an effort to convince him that it was time to move on. I used such logic as you are getting used, she doesn't love you, think of the people you are not meeting. Jeff said that he was willing to risk additional heart break for her. As a last stitch effort I did also point out also the whole "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" logic. I got a swift kick and an epic eye roll from Jeff and I'm sure anyone else in ear shot.
It was not always an easy road however, I am glad to report that Jeff did go on to finally get himself out of the friend zone and into a real relationship. His friend discovered that she was going to lose the only good guy in her life. I am happy to share that she shape up and they have been dating for almost a year now.
So in short ladies and gentlemen do not let games and zones invade your life. Also for you zoners (yes I created that word) do not get trapped in this. Be upfront with the other person, do not be selfish and keep them holding on. And for the love of all things holy, you are not a friend if you sleepover, half naked; you are a tease. And no one likes that.
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