For most of my life I've been pretty amicable, you know easy to get along with. Over the years, however, I seem to be getting set in my ways and I seem to take offense easier. Folks rub me the wrong way and most of the times I let it go, other times I find myself plotting revenge. There are few things that offer the same satisfaction as doling out retribution to some poor sap who has once wronged you. Especially when they aren't expecting it, as the old saying goes 'revenge is a dish best served cold'.
I can't tell y'all how many times I've wrestled with the Lord on this issue. Usually the first thing He tells me is "turn the other cheek'. Luke 6:29. I'm sure you've all heard it.
Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also. - Luke 6:28-29 KJV
Turning the other cheek can go beyond our human capacities however. Someone wrongs you and your first reaction is to plot some sort of revenge or vengence equally as nefarious as whatever ill was brought against you. Thus starts the cycle of 'one-upping'. Tit-for-tat. Each participant fueled by anger attempting to right some wrong against themselves. When it's all over, you have a long lasting enemy.
This idea extends beyond enemies. Have you ever played a practical joke on someone, or had one played on you? Yes they can be good fun and mostly harmless, however what if a joke goes to far. Someone is publicly humiliated, or harmed, and feelings get hurt. This is where the joke turns to revenge. And maybe lose a friend and gain an enemy.
I suppose that this is the reason Jesus said in Matthew "Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;" Why? Jesus continues: "That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust."
The Lord liveth; and blessed be my rock; and let the God of my salvation be exalted. It is God that avengeth me, and subdueth the people under me. He delivereth me from mine enemies: yea, thou liftest me up above those that rise up against me: thou hast delivered me from the violent man. - Psalms 18:46-48 KJV
Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others ? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect. - Matthew 5:43-48
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. - Romans 12:19
Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD - Leviticus 19:18
Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. - I Peter 3:9: