Valentine’s Day is here once again, and if you’re single, it’s probably one of the more…annoying holidays on the calendar. This Hallmark holiday is designed for couples, sweethearts, and lovebirds who already have a significant other of some sort, leaving the single person to fend for themselves. Sadly, you’ll never see a Valentine’s card in the card store that says “To my favorite Valentine, me, from me.”
This, however, is exactly what I suggest you do - be your own Valentine.
Love for oneself is probably the single most important thing you can have for a good self-esteem and a positive outlook on life; feeling good about yourself helps you attract positive, psychologically healthier people, improves your work performance, and actually makes your brain and body healthier and happier. It’s a gift that keeps on giving in all areas of your life, so it pays to tell yourself how much you care. If you enjoy the single life, this is no big news, but if not…
- Try making something delicious for your taste buds, or if the kitchen is your enemy, eat at that restaurant you’ve been dying to try.
- Enjoy a day at the spa, get a massage, pedicure, manicure, your hair done – whatever make you feel pretty (or handsome).
- Volunteer at a homeless shelter, soup kitchen, pet shelter, Habitat For Humanity…any place that serves the less fortunate.
- Call some friends over for a potluck, wine & cheese, dessert party or game night.
- Crack the newspaper and find out what local events are happening in your area. Art shows, musical events, or taking a class on something you’ve always wanted to do or learn about are also great ways to invest in yourself.
If you are shy or introverted, don’t go it alone! It’s not absolutely necessary for you to be alone in order to appreciate how special you are (good friends are always welcome to join in the fun), but try to avoid “singles” events happening during Valentine’s Day week; they’re normally designed to match-make, and that reinforces the (wrong) message that your value depends on the presence of another person.
In the process of doing some of these things, you might meet other people who share your interests and can open new social venues that you might not have known about otherwise. Most of all, enjoy your day with humor and the knowledge that you are really special – no matter what day it is!
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