Vacations with your significant other can offer a break from normal routine, none of life’s usual distractions, and allow for greater privacy, which can heighten sexual tension and opportunity. They can be as lovely as a honeymoon, without the need for a ring, but sometimes come with the similar expectations. Planning to vacation with a significant other can even be perceived as a serious step towards commitment. With just a little preparation, effort, and careful communication, however, you can have a better chance of insuring that your time away together is worthwhile.
- Frame the relationship. Make sure to communicate before you leave, clarify expectations and commitment, so misunderstandings don’t spoil your time away.
- Do your research. The internet has made preparation easy, especially thanks to personal reviews. Plan a tentative itinerary together that you’d both enjoy, create a list of must-do’s, or keep a few ideas on reserve, just in case. Book main attractions ahead of time and take the initiative if your partner has difficulty with decisions.
- Be positive. Agree to leave your issues and hang-ups at home. As a great rule of thumb, if you must fight, do it naked.
- Talk about money before you leave. Vacations are expensive. Discuss how you will pay for everything before the bills start to arrive.
- Do something out of the box. Maximize your experience and memorable moments with unique activities.
- Take time as a couple. If on a group trip or at a resort, get plenty of time alone, especially sexually. Also, leave your phones in the room.
- Be romantic. Take advantage of the natural romance attached to vacations. A flower or favorite treat will win you extra points.
- Commemorate the event. Be sure to take lots of photos, review, and share them together.
- Take a few days apart. It may be hard to separate after spending so much time together, but be sure to allow time to get your personal lives together and give yourselves the chance to miss each other again.
A vacation is a great opportunity to strengthen, revitalize or test a relationship. There is no right time to go on a vacation. Any time and status of a relationship is “vacation material” if you focus on the benefits and avoid conflict with a little bit of preparation, attention to detail, and positive personal attitude.
Benjamin Ritter, MBA, MPH, Author of The Essentials and co-founder of Suave Lover International and the Suave Lover podcast (subscribe on iTunes), is a freelance writer and a private relationship-and-social-dynamics coach in the areas of public health, fitness, and social dynamics, a writer and editor for Ask Men.com, and the interpersonal relationships columnist for examiner.com. His passion lies in guiding and providing tools to men for overall self-improvement. For more information go to http://www.Benjamin-Ritter.com
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*Edited by Rachel Ritter