ABC News/Nightline did a recent piece on the plight of unmarried black women. The content essentially asks if the standards black women set are too high or are their too few black men. This is a topic that can be dealt with in a worldly sense, supported by facts, statistics and anecdotal evidence. It can also be analyzed from a spiritual and Universal Law perspective.
Typically, as in the Nightline piece, statistics referencing black men without college degrees, incarcerated, unemployed or gay were used to support the thesis that there are not enough available partners for black women. The fallacy in that approach is that, statistically speaking, one must also reduce the number of black females that are incarcerated, unemployed, gay or without college degrees to be accurate in terms of availability.
From a spiritual perspective, one might start with contemplating Proverbs 23:7, which states “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Applying this to the topic, if black women, or any one for that matter, think that there is a lack of anything, that person will experience that lack. In thinking that there are few suitable black men to marry, that thinking will create it as personal experience.
Further, one must consider what is in their heart versus what words are coming out of their mouth. One can know what is on their heart, by looking at the result of their experience. Meaning, if there is a lack of marriageable men, lack of money or an abundance of professional accomplishments, one can then conclude that the aforementioned beliefs in lack and abundance are what resides in the heart. Otherwise the scripture stated above is incorrect.
This dovetails nicely into the Universal Law of Mentalism, which states that the Universe is mental. One knows from experience that nothing manifests without thinking about it first. It is impossible to make or buy anything without first thinking about it. One cannot move a limb or body without thought. Thinking makes it so.
And finally, perhaps most importantly, as one contemplates nature, it is easy to notice that everything is in balance. There is enough air and food for humans, animals and insects. There is enough water for fish to swim in and mammals to drink. And, there are enough males and females throughout the world to procreate and sustain a species. Since there is balance throughout nature, one has to conclude that God would not leave black women out in providing balance for them.
http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=9414502
ABC News/Nightline on the plight of unmarried black women
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Mark, this is perfectly stated. As a Black woman, I'm only concerned about there being one Black man for me. I choose to focus on that number rather than the numbers of unavailable Black men. It has worked my entire life. While on one hand numbers are absolute, on the other hand, they can be skewed and distorted to serve anyone's purpose. Thanks for standing up for me and my sisters in the face of fabricated hopelessness.
Well written article and thought provoking. Although as a black history major in college, the statistics show that for black women, are 7 or 8 times more likely to get a college education than men. So this is real, sadly brothers don't make it through college at the same rate. So with women who are educated, it can be a problem. Black men die in the streets at alarming rates. 50 % of black men are incarcerated, we are only 15% of the populations.Sometimes with an education difference, men get very resentful, because they don't have the same opportunties.I have a feeling that is what the show was talking about.
I agree with Rhonda and I'll add that if you are a woman that is looking for a healthy long term commitment you shouldn't expect a stadium full of men to fit the bill. If that was the case THEN how would you choose? Most of us can have SOMEone if we want someone but looking for that "fit" takes time. I think the newstory highlights that the women profiled are those that are willing to keep looking/working for what they want. These are women that set goals and then set out to reach them by putting in the time, energy, etc., women that believe things like "anything worth having isn't easy" so if that's their general mental state then applying the Universal Law, why is it hard to believe or suddenly unfair/wrong if it takes time, energy, etc to find the relationship they want?
All:
Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to the article. Regina, I was particularly careful not to address the individuals in the news story because the few moments that each person had to speak would not adequately tell their whole story. Therefore, I would not say that it is "unfair/wrong" for them to do anything. Universal Law does allow one to "read the tea leaves" such that intention is revealed by results. Meaning, as Rhonda put it, her concern was that there is ONE black man for her. Rhonda's result of being married revealed that her intention was to be married. Likewise, using Universal Law, these beautiful women currently have an intention of not being married. They can, and hopefully, will change their intention, ie their mind.
Carolyn as you well know, college education has nothing to do with character. All you need is one. Perhaps you can be someone that is an example of a college educated sister that is happily married to a brother without a deg
Hey Mark,
I am speaking generally also and no I don't think YOU indicated that it was unfair/wrong that the women on the show are so seemingly wonderful and single BUT its the entire point of the show in the first place is, right? Sort of a, "Look at these wonderful black women, WHY can't they find a black man? Tragic!" I admit I didn't see the piece, I've only seen a snippet. I'd be cautious to agree that their intention is not to get married as it is NOT to get married to an unsuitable mate OR to state is affirmatively to only marry a suitable mate. So if they are going around with a list in their pockets how is that not having their minds right?
Sorry about the typos but you follow me! lol
Hey Regina.... Thanks for the conversation. A link to the entire piece, which totals 7 minutes is at the bottom of the article.
I understand the importance of a "list" of attributes for a partner. First, using Universal Law, it is only possible to attract the attributes that one embodies, which could be different from what is on the list. Meaning, do your own internal work to be your best. Who you attract is a reflection of who you are and the work you have done on yourself. Having a list does not really mean anything. You can only attract what you are. Hope that helps.
Mark, if it was only 7 minutes then maybe I did see the whole thing already but I'll check it out later. I get what you're saying but you may have picked up on it by now that I'm just a bit of a contrarian (which I believe is a word I made up since it has the red line under it-lol) and if someone says blue I wanna know why not green, that's just me (most days). I agree that there is power in positive thinking and other mental exercises but who we are and who we say we are...or worse yet who we THINK we are do not always agree. I mentioned the list because writing something down is only done if the person has thought about it first therefore product of their mind, however, it appears having it does not yielded any results. Yes, I think you should be what you want your partner to be but the whole who you attract is a reflection of you is frightening to me.
I'm single, 31 with a professional degree and I refuse to believe that the random people that approach me whether I'm downtown in my business suit or pumping gas in my neighborhood have even considered firstly whether I'd have any interest in me at all they just wanna throw their hat in the ring. If it's me then send HELP! Because I have met many men that know they do not have themselves together but will just take that chance. I just figured that was just the nature of the beast, men seek, the more you seek the more you catch.
Correction: "...whether I'd have any interest in THEM..." lol
Regina:
The only reason to consider the information that so called random people are bring you is if you are interested in healing yourself and growing. If you are interested in that, then, you might want to consider the information.
Suppose while pumping gas, a 'random' person approaches you inappropriately. Then, you might consider where you have been inappropriate. Suppose you were a tiny bit rude at the post office. Though you felt justified in the moment, that person at the gas station was there to show you how that feels.
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