A ‘bad’ boss can make every work day unbearable at the least – or wreck your career and scar your psyche at the most. Your career is in your hands. It’s up to you to make the most of it. Select your boss with care.
The best time to discern whether your future boss is ‘good for you’ or ‘bad for you’ is when you’re interviewing for a job. Turn on and tune in to WIGO (what is going on) in the moment. Be mindful.
There’s one simple way to tell if you’ll be working for a ‘bad’ boss. Yes, he may be narcissistic to the point of character flaw, he may treat people as ‘things,’ and he may use his employees as scapegoats. He may be aggressive or he may be passive-aggressive. He may be in a robotic trance or he may be a micro-manager.
Yet, all ‘bad’ bosses are seeking one of two things beneath the surface of their behavior. Here ‘tis: 1) an extreme need for control or 2) an extreme need for attention – both of which cross healthy work relationship boundaries.
Most ‘bad’ bosses fall into the category of ‘emotionally dysfunctional.’ Emotional dysfunction is characterized by one-dimensional, stereotypical reactions rather than healthy, multidimensional, conditional responses.
Control and attention are almost impossible to change when managing ‘up.’ Here’s why: the need for control or attention circumvents reason, empathy and the higher-mind.
Again, the best time to discern whether your future boss is ‘good for you’ or ‘bad for you’ is when you’re interviewing for a job. Turn on and tune in to WIGO (what is going on) in the moment. Be mindful.
Your career matters. It's up to you: Select your boss with care.
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