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Turn Every Failure Into Victory

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Mitch Robbins: Alright Ed, your best day, what was it?

Ed Furillo: I'm 14 and my mother and father are fighting again... y'know, because she caught him again. Caught him... This time the girl drove by the house to pick him up. And I finally realized, he wasn't just cheating on my mother, he was cheating us. So I told him, I said, "You're bad to us. We don't love you. I'll take care of my mother and my sister. We don't need you anymore." And he made like he was gonna hit me, but I didn't budge. And he turned around and he left. He never bothered us again. Well, I took care of my mother and my sister from that day on. That's my best day.

Phil Berquist: What was your worst day?

Ed Furillo: Same day. (City Slickers. Dir. Ron Underwoord. Perf. Billy Crystal, Daniel Stern, and Bruno Kirby. Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer Studios Inc, 1991.)

In his book, Nothing is Impossible, available at Cleveland's Visible Voice Books, author Tom Oliver shares a powerful tool he learned from Marc Allen. He calls it the persistently positive perspective.

The idea is simple but powerful, and if you take time to do the exercise it should take less than five minutes. Anthony Robbins suggests a similar strategy when he talks about power questions. When we ask questions that begin with why the brain struggles to find an answer. But when we ask quality questions of ourselves our mind will find an empowering solution.

So when obstacles appear Robbins suggests instead of asking why is this happening, we ask what is great about this and how can I use this? The idea is to work at the process until you really come up with an empowering answer.

Oliver shares that for every challenge come up with “15 things that could come out of this situation that would be beneficial.” For instance, when he couldn’t afford car repairs and was falling into depression due to financial stress, he began a list of benefits of not having a car that include riding a bike to work and getting exercise at the same time and exploring new parts of the city he lived in as he rode to work.

Each us of face heavy challenges every day. Someone has suggested there are an average of four crisis a day that all of us must deal with on an individual basis.

As Oliver shares, “Our life changes with our viewpoint and the beliefs we focus on.”

As we move into a new year with unexpected twists and turns, take this tool with you and be ready to find the hidden treasures in even the most challenging of times.

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