It’s over. One of you has recently called it quits. At this point it doesn’t matter who said goodbye first because it still hurts so badly. You now understand that nothing is really going to bring the two of you back together at this point in your life. So, now you are coping the best way you know how. The first night, week, or month without your partner can create some of the most stress you’ve ever experienced. With all of that stress from crying, screaming and arguing over the past few weeks, your mind, body, and soul is so wound up that you’ve been finding it pretty hard to sleep at night. You already know that answering the phone, responding to the text messages, going back over to their place to try and talk it out (again) clearly isn’t an option anymore. It didn’t work the first 30 times both of you tried it. And all you are seeking right now is a little separation from it all. But you just lay there in your bed while tossing and turning for most of the night. It’s not so easy sleeping with a broken heart—is it? If you fit this mold and you are ready to do whatever it takes to get a good night’s rest again, try incorporating the below five suggestions into your lifestyle. Followed closely will have you fully rested in no time.
Meditate. Close your eyes. Listen to yourself breathe. Breathe in through your nose and hold for a few seconds and then release the air through your mouth. Do this slowly and deeply several times. Make sure there is soft instrumental music playing in the background. Meditation is a great way for slowing down and calming down. Focusing your attention on your breathing pattern will be the one safe way of keeping your mind off of your ex. It’s hard to think of something else when you are completely focusing your attention on your breathing. With all of the anxiety you’ve been experiencing lately; the panting, crying, and gasping for air, I’m certain that your mind, body, and soul could use a small break from the present norm. The art of meditation is a great skill to develop especially for times like now.
Exercise. Creating a normal exercise routine is not only physically healthy, but it can also make it easier for you to fall asleep and perhaps have a deeper sleep than usual. For example, walking is a good way to not only get some fresh air, but also to clear your mind. Better than that, feeling the gentle breeze or the natural sun on your skin can be just the right therapy needed to move forward in your life. Perhaps yoga is another solid release. As you are building and firming your core, you are also finding new ways of relieving the tension and stress you’ve been experiencing during your break up.
Pray. For a spiritual person, a prayer can be a great way to release some of your stress. When you give your problems away, they are no longer in your hands and no longer deserve your full focus. Having a moment for yourself to completely express your honest feelings and desires is another great motive to say a prayer. In releasing your stress, there’s less stress keeping you awake at night. You know the saying, “why pray if you are going to worry and why worry if you are going to pray.”
Write. You could write out your feelings in a journal, write affirmations to yourself to post around your home, write a closure letter to your ex, or many other things. In any matter, you should write until you have it all out in the open. Write until you have fully expressed yourself in that moment. Writing can truly help you to process what has occurred and what will happen next in your life. You may even find out that you are able to solve a few problems along the way. Writing can also help you to see how far you’ve actually come. It has always been a solid choice of therapy.
Talk. Having a nice conversation with a trusted and non-judgmental friend or family member helps for venting purposes, if necessary. Having someone to speak to, in general, can also be a great way to bring clarity and closure to your situation. What better way to have a more peaceful sleep than of doing what’s worked so many times before…and simply talking it through.
Don’t you owe it to yourself to have a more peaceful night—one full of rest, stillness, and slumber. You’ve been through a lot lately and although time is the only thing that will truly heal your broken heart, at least you’ll have some solid ideas for a better night’s sleep.
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