Marriage rates are on the decrease while divorce rates are on the increase. More and more couples are deciding to live together rather than take the marital plunge. According to the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention), Divorce Statistics show that those who were married while age twenty to twenty four, both male and female, have a higher divorce rate than any other age group. 45% to 50% first marriages end in divorce. 60% to 67% of second marriages end in divorce and 70% to 73% of third marriages end in divorce. These numbers are alarming and disturbing.
With these staggering numbers, it is important to work hard to keep marriages together. Marriages end in divorce for a number of reasons. The reasons range from an extra marital affairs, to financial reason to husbands and wives simply growing apart. Perhaps men and women are too busy searching for an excuse to divorce than to stay together.
It is important for couples to really evaluate their circumstances and explore the consequences of divorcing as opposed to staying together and working on their marriage.
One of the top reasons for divorce is lack of communication. When communication becomes a problem, a husband and wife may stop talking to each other and begin to drift away as they may feel they are being taken for granted or under appreciated. Over time, intimacy is affected and eventually lack of concern for a spouses feelings become an issue.
Before you consider divorce, perhaps consulting with a marriage counselor may help. Often times when couples do try to talk, emotions tend to run high and can result in verbal abuse and at times even physical abuse. This can also result in one spouse not being able to voice their feelings affectively, if at all.
A marriage counselor can work as an unbiased referee in your communication efforts and provide a safe environment for each spouse to say how they feel. In addition, a marriage counselor can see things that a spouse may not be able to see because that spouse is emotional and he or she is equipped with suggestions to help repair your marriage.
A couple has the choice of seeing a marriage counselor together or separately. A few sessions can help a person get to the root of their marital issue. Although marriage counseling is not a guaranteed solution, many breakthroughs have resulted and many marriages have been saved.
Therefore, before you and your spouse decide on divorce, adding to national statistics, evaluate your communication process and seek out a professional marriage counselor. Your insurance company, your spiritual leader, or a successful married couple may be able to assist you in seeking a marriage counselor that is right for you.
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