If the truth will set you free, why do so many people lie?
Why do people lie? People lie to avoid conflict and when their self-esteem is threatened. The farther one's true self is from their ideal self, the more likely they are to lie.
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Being aware of some basic body language gestures involving the nose, eye, ear, neck, mouth, and hand can help you to expose a liar.
Who hasn’t heard the old saying “Liars never look you in the eye”? It’s normal for someone to look away when asked a difficult question, but when someone avoids your gaze when asked a simple question, does your spot-a-lie radar turn on?
Liars rub their eyes to avoid looking at the face of the person to whom they are lying. They either look away or stare past the person. Liars cover their mouth with their hand or a few fingers, with the thumb pressed against the cheek, in a subconscious attempt to hide the lie. Several light rubs or one quick rub below the nose indicates, not an itchy nose, but a lie. If it's a real itch, the person will scratch the nose, not just give it a light touch.
Scratching just below the ear lobe with the index finger of the writing hand contradicts what a person is saying -- like being confused about something and scratching your neck as you say, "I understand." And, if someone you are talking to starts rubbing the back of their ear, pulling the ear lobe, or bending the ear forward over the ear canal, it time to stop talking, as they are signaling that they have heard enough.
Throughout history, an open palm has been associated with truth, honesty, allegiance, and submission. Liars often hide their palms, shoving then behind their back so that their fidgety fingers won’t give them away. To appear more credible when speaking with others, you should use a lot of open palm gestures.
Words are also good indicators that a person is lying. A liar will say, "I am telling you the truth.” Liars answer a question with a question, repeat the question rather than answer it, or pause before answering.
How often do people lie? A study published in the Journal of Basic and Applied Psychology found that 60% of people lied at least once during a conversation with a stranger, and on average, the subjects lied about 3 times in a 10 minute conversation. Another study claims that, on average, men tell six lies a day, while women tell only three.
The most common lie told by both sexes is "Nothing's wrong, I'm fine!"