So often we underestimate those things which are made available to us. In fact we are bred with prescription emotions, be they of joy or pain. It is in the music we hear, the sights we see, and even our very dreams. So, in an everyday life it is considerably unusual to be able to be creative, to be even the least different without experiencing reproach. Peer pressure exists through-out our lives, and we fight to belong. Sadly, it is often to no avail. It is the belly of what has been described as society. Rarely spoken of is the divisiveness, in which the multitude delight.
Those assemblages which were seen as simple internet groups have evolved once again. Most will recall that the internet as a whole changed from being a social network to social media. What does that mean? It means that we have become globally aware of each other’s needs, and the cultural prescription has transformed. Many of those groups which were once considered by most to be insignificant, are now invaluable. They are in fact young and growing global, civil societies. Michael’s circle of love, which we shall explore, is an example. It is more of a society than those emanated in face to face worlds. How this came to be is really quite beautiful.
Shared philosophy and enlightened beliefs energize cultural values. Building a consistent, strong consortium is an amazing accomplishment. It is in every sense of the word the epitome of creativity. Such is the basis of culture, which is the root of attitudes, opinions beliefs and all manners that yield values. A unique, culture produces a fellowship that is not easily equaled, and in fact is the essence of any unparalleled society. Michael’s circle of love is indeed a society.
Moreover, Michael’s circle of love is a global civil society. Michael Walzer writes in Toward a Global Civil Society; “They require special kinds of bonds of intimacy, continuity, and stability. Their characteristic language is a language of commitment, responsibility, duty, virtue, memory, solidarity, and even love rather than the discourse, valuable in its own right, of choice, rights, personal freedom, and individualism.”
In most orders, participants have already been programmed to feel either shame or self-esteem. First, let’s look at shame.
Shame can make the best of men feel unreservedly insignificant. It completely diminishes one feeling of belonging. Because the concept has been bred into so many, the predetermined triggers go off with the persons thoughts, thus it can never be proven that anyone else had anything to do with the response. It is indeed a response. Debased, yet nothing bad has happened at all.
The etymology of the word shame is from the Indo-Germanic root kam/kem meaning “to cover. It is easy to imagine fear of failure and even a loss of ones God given creativity. Rejection, and the feeling that one does not belong stand without question. Shame and the lack of belonging can literally shorten one’s life.
“Institutional isolation, being removed from the community, and social ostracization were all early forms of punishment to individuals not behaving within social limits. The scarlet letter and the dunce cap were all forms of humiliation that left the perpetrator alone and vulnerable. As we develop, socializing is our earliest form of education.
"When forced into alienation, children fail to strive. All that we are and all that we believe is found in our social perception. Identity, self-efficacy and self-regulatory systems are all developed by interacting with others (Bandura, 1999). Without satisfactory peer relations many children fail to develop healthy interpersonal relationships and will develop unhealthy social skills”
From: Effects of Loneliness on Human Development/ By: Blossom, Paige; Apsche, Jack | The International Journal of Behavioral Consultation and Therapy, Winter 2013
Now, a look at self-esteem.
“Self-esteem refers to the worth or dignity that one ascribes to oneself. In German, the word Selbswertgefühl makes this clear: it is a feeling (Gefühl) of worth (Wert) that we have of our selves (Selbst). The word “esteem,” derived from the Latin word aestimare, denotes an estimation that I make of my own value.”
From: Shame and the Origins of Self-Esteem: A Jungian Approach/ By: Mario Jacoby; Douglas Whitcher
Clearly, self-esteem also is dependent upon how one views self. However, that is not how it begins. All people have to have a feeling of belonging before they can be strengthened in being open, and revealing who they really are. There is no doubt in my mind that you, the reader, are asking yourself what this has to do with Michael’s circle of love. It is simple. Self-esteem and love are healing. If we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, it is empowering when we esteem ourselves. That is the height of love that we are able to share with others, and love is indisputably healing. MCOL is global, it is indeed possible to heal people all over the world. Heal the World!
Belonging is actually a spiritual concept. Thus when there are those who do all they can to make others feel as though they are not a part of a community, we should questions them. Otherism’s are created, they are discriminatory practices that include racial discrimination, age discrimination, and gender discrimination to name a few. MCOL is not discriminatory in any way! None of these cruelties exist at all. It is a place that is based in unconditional love. Members are only asked to treat each other with kindness. The following is from the MCOL description.
“Since darkness attracts darkness and light attracts light, in the group we try to express ourselves with kindness and love - in order to attract, generate and pay forward kindness and love and to honor Michael's own way of expressing himself.
The only “rule” we have for membership is that you feel inspired by Michael Jackson to make the world a better place and that you address Michael and your fellow human beings with love and respect.”
For a greater understanding of MCOL, in the coming articles I have interviewed some of the members of MCOL. Their responses are not to be missed! If you enjoyed this article, subscribe and receive articles upon publication automatically.
1) Toward a Global Civil Society. Contributors: Michael Walzer - Author. Publisher: Berghahn Books. Place of publication: Providence, RI. Publication year: 1998
2) Effects of Loneliness on Human Development/ By: Blossom, Paige; Apsche, Jack | The International Journal of Behavioral Consultation and Therapy, Winter 2013
3) Shame and the Origins of Self-Esteem: A Jungian Approach, Contributors, Mario Jacoby, Douglas Whitcher, Publisher:Routledge 1996
4) Michael's circle of love: Description of the group