The meeting of two personalities
is like the contact of two chemical substances:
if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
Carl Jung (1875-1961)
Some people say that friendship doesn’t exist at all, and we just full ourselves calling each other friends. I have to disagree and rebut it because true soul mates exist, and, in fact, you and I are among them.
A person without a friend is the same as a car whithout a wheel. It can actually start but won’t move. And in order to get somewhere we defenately need to find good wheels. We can run across them anywhere: in a gym, in a park, at work, on-line. But not every potential friend is going to be a real one because friendship is multiple in its nature.
Pure friendship when, ‘I’m gonna go anywhere with you because you are my friend, and I like everything about it’ is literally ideal. You trust each other blindly feeling very secure. You have little sicrets knowing that they won’t be revealed even on pain of death. You have your favourite restaurant, bars, streets, benches, books, tv-shows, phrases, songs, jokes that only you two laugh about. You share everything together: happiness, sadness, pants. You truly worry over each other doing your best to help. Friendship in this case is something sacred that lasts throughout the whole life, and no man, other friend or distance can ruin it. And I am very happy to be close to such a perfection having a better half as a friend. We’ve been together for over 15 years. So far, so good. Of course there were times when we hated each other, when we stoped being friends. But later we understood that what we have is very rare, and from the moment on we are inseparable in spite of living in different countries. Everyone wants that, but not everybody gets that. It’s sad but true. What most people have to face is “beneficial” kind of friendship where, ‘I’ll go with you only if you can do something that I can take advantage of’. Everything looks pretty normal from outside. You also have a lot in common, you appear in public together. But if we look deeper, we’ll see that our “friend” is trying to achieve his/her goal, and being sympathetic and nice is just a part of it. They will share our point of view having absolutely different opinion in reality. When objective is attained, they will bring any contact to nothing or pretend angels again in order to get something alse. And there is no treatment from these species except for taking it easy. They are everywhere and no one is insured from them. But it doesn’t mean that you cannot trust people at all! You just have to learn how to differentiate between good and bad people. It comes with experience. But you cannot have a guarantee that you won’t be mistaken again. You need to be hurt in order to value peace and harmony. And when you lose this concept again, life will always remind you about it. In spite of that, we should never give up on true friends. They are up there. We just need to give ourselves a chance to meet them.