Your kids are growing up so fast that you’re afraid if you blink, you might miss something important. One minutes you are gently holding them in your arms, almost afraid that they might break, and the next they are 17 years old, almost ready to leave the nest. Where does the time go? With adulthood just around the corner, how can you be sure if you did a good enough job raising them? It’s not too late to get involved. Here are just a few reasons why finding quality time with your teen is so important.
- Find out what his or her future plans are. You need to know if your son or daughter is going to college, enlisting in the military, or simply getting a job. You may need to offer your help and support. They might need a scholarship
or help creating a resume. Make sure your child is equipped for the journey he or she is almost ready to explore.
- Find out who their friends are. It is important that you find out who your child is associating with. Is he or she dating? How much does he or she know about proper behavior? These are all very important things that you as a parent need to be aware of. Remember if you don’t ask, they probably won’t just come out and tell you.
- Teach them how to communicate. While your children watch you communicate with those around you, they are also making mental notes about how you communicate with them. They will mirror your behavior some day, which will either cause them to be good communicators, or poor communicators. Let’s face it; good communication is the key to any good relationship.
So, don’t worry if you are not as close to your teen as you’d like to be. It’s not too late. Sit him or her down after dinner and ask how they are doing. Find out what they need and if they will let you help. Go take a walk, or even play a game with them and slip in some questions about their daily life. They want you to care, they need you to ask, and before they leave for what could be a long time, make sure they want to come back.