Okay, so after my last post you had to have known this was coming! I mean it's only fair, plus I had tons of fun looking through hot guy pics for my article, yeah I'm not gonna lie.
While we women are pretty much a whole other animal than men we find non-looks related things attractive on a man. Like personality, humor, intelligence and confidence. If you're a man reading this, no we are not as shallow as you are! Lucky for you if in the looks department you tend to end up on the sales rack!
When forced to be shallow however, we will let you know what we like about you physically and you'll be surprised to know the list is probably not what you think or at least not in the order you would think. It may come as a shocker to both men and even some women that muscular men are not what women are into, at least not for the long haul (meaning for a relationship). We tend to gravitate toward more feminine looking men (facial wise) as we tend to equate them with being a better father to our future children. It's all so animalistic really, it comes down to basically having to do with offspring. We size each other up subconsciously for our mating abilities. So we are being unknowingly "naughty" ........hey can't help it man it's in our genes. With that being said let's hit the top 5 list shall we?
5. Legs - This one rated quite a bit higher on the "what men find most physically attractive in women" list, but nonetheless, still rated with women as well. Actually both men and women prefer a potential mates legs to be longer as this is viewed as sexy and dominant. Health wise, the male with the longer legs also tend to be more healthy. A man with shorter legs is at a higher risk of coronary health problems. In addition, taller men make better salesmen than a shorter man as they are viewed as dominant and confident and will be taken more seriously than a shorter salesman. So if you're under, say 5'9" maybe you should take up telemarketing?
4. Back - Aaah yes we all love a sexy wide back. Especially if it's shirtless! A nice, wide, sexy back signifies strength and protection. Of course I think I would be speaking for all women if I included that the nice, wide, sexy back be as hairless as possible!
3. Hair - Odd, this surprised me that women would insist on a great head of hair on a man. I guess I never really thought much about it, I mean other than ya know, hair is actually required! Women tended to vote for a thick head of hair, generally dark in color. It seems a man with darker hair is viewed as more mysterious, sexy and manly as opposed to his blond counterpart who would be interpreted as more meek and mild, as in the nice guy next door. Sorry Brad Pitt, you're no longer where it's at little buddy.
2. Butt - I really couldn't wait to get to this one. I must admit that I enjoy a man with a nice ass. I cannot handle it when you see a fine looking guy and he turns around only to be ass-less. I mean what a waste! Like men, we women like a guy to fill out his jeans nicely. I want to add on this one that we don't enjoy looking at a guy with "girl butt" either. Ladies you know what I'm talking about, like it's kinda wide and puffy?? Yeah, I'll pass on that one. It's just gotta be "there" ya know, like not too puffy but certainly not flat. Just a nice ass you could definitely grab onto and say "hell yeah!"
Finally the number 1 thing we women find physically attractive on men........dunt dunt duuuuuuuuh (that's my cheap interpretation of some sort of instrument, not sure what kind, perhaps a bazooka would have worked better?)
1. Eyes - A great pair of gorgeous eyes is killer. Men, you have nooooooo idea (perhaps you do now though) how women love your eyes. Sexy eyes will get us every time. If you know how to use them, you've got us! Happily I admit that's what got me with my husband. That and of course his butt and long legs. OMG I'm so text book! Women unlike men, however, prefer brown eyes. When it really comes down to it, as long as you're giving us the come hither stare we don't really care what color they are (unless of course you're only sporting like one eye, say, in the center of your forehead, that would have to be a deal breaker!)
So ladies how did you fare on this list? Do you agree? Disagree? Men, what about you, do you think this a pretty fair list?
Questions? Comments? Email me: dani.page@yahoo.com available for bookings!
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i think thesse guys are very sexy and usually, i prefer woman, because im bi and all, but who can resist such a sexy, hottass man candy yee-hah! yer babayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy ey ey eyey.
this article sucks..bad.
Sarah,
Love comments, even if they are rude and not explained........at all. If the article sucks....bad then why not explain why you think it sucks bad? In this case don't shoot the messenger, I didn't make this list! If you paid attention to this "sucks bad" article you would have seen at the end that the source used were blogs and message boards from guess what? Women!! Hmm Sarah is it? Perhaps you're really not a woman but a man %$#@ off about the list! Whatever floats your boat man, either way thanks for laugh!
LOL now I finally know why I don't get laid, since I'm blond with green-blue eyes, have a big fluffy ass, and a feminine face. Maybe I should make myself some muscles, but with this list it looks like I'm doomed anyway.
Sucks that I'll have to wait until the girls go settle, but o well, I guess theres always prostitutes.
Anon- Hey don't get too down at least you have the feminine face right? Women look for that subconsciously so you got that going for you!! Here's an idea, go and read the top 5 things men find attractive in women, and what those guys don't like go for those women, apparently they aren't getting laid either so I'm sure they would be happy to give you some get'em get'em!!! I'm sure you're great don't take yourself so seriously in this life, take chances, live life and oh.......stay away from prostitutes you could definitely catch something!!! LOL thanks for the comment anon and I appreciate you reading the article!!
Wow. My self confidence as a male just went way up.
I'm a 40ish something gal, and have a crush on a 50 year old male actor. He is 6'4", had a broad back and shoulders, dark hair, and the most amazing brown eyes. His name Vincent D'Onofrio. Sexiest man alive!
I'm a 40ish something gal, and have a crush on a 50 year old male actor. He is 6'4", had a broad back and shoulders, dark hair, and the most amazing brown eyes. His name, Vincent D'Onofrio. Sexiest man alive!
I'm a 40ish something gal, and have a crush on a 50 year old male actor. He is 6'4", had a broad back and shoulders, dark hair, and the most amazing brown eyes. His name, Vincent D'Onofrio. Sexiest man alive!
I have muscle like a swimmer and a nice ass but I feel bad since I have blonde hair and blue eyes and a feminish face. Well I hope males don't look at what women look at you should make a list for gays. :DD Also I never understood is this for a majority of women or is this like for sure what nature of a women will look at. So the counter positive for the nature statement is if that's true if other women look at completly opposite things are they doomed to always be disatisfied or forever go against nature :/ weird rambling thought lol.
Its hilarious how nearly all women will say that looks don't matter as much as they do to a man.
Just proves women are better liars, any non attractive man will tell you that they do indeed matter, and not just to "attractive" women.
Heh, I have all those characteristics. :) In any case, I have a condition however, pectus excavatum, but a milder form of it. It's basicaly this: I have a dent in my chest. Does this matter much (Please be as superficial as you can).
I think if a woman really is interested in YOU something like this won't matter to her. I mean we women look good when we have our hair fixed and our makeup on sporting push up bras etc, and when we wake up in the morning you see the real us....blotchy skin, a few zits here and there, hair a mess and oh look, no boobies really after all and it doesn't matter to you right? Look, nobody is perfect and if a chick is only going to love/like you only for what you look like, then she's superficial and not worth it anyways! For me to answer this superficially however, it probably would be weird to a chick you took home for the first time and depending on her as an individual she may or may not want to see you again.
haha I have that too. Muscle up and they won't care.
I'm gay, and I agree with the other gay dude, you should make a list for gays! I have some of these characteristics, but I'm very small... like 5, 3 ish... but at least i have well defined muscles (i did gymnastics for 9 years) , but im curious about the butt part... its not flat, its round, but its bony lol is that good or bad?
Hi Gay M, hmmm round but boney? Can those two words be in the same sentence? Perhaps you could explain it a bit more. Round is always good gay or not, however "wide" and flat or "wide" and fluffy not so much. As far as the list goes for gay men that sounds like an idea, however you can see how I got slammed by some for this article and I'm a chick! I can't imagine researching and stating what gay men like about other men because when the gay men read it and don't agree with it they will probably say what the hell do you know you're a chick??? LOL I know what you mean about being very small I'm only 4'11 and 1/2. Yeah, I have to put that 1/2 inch in there, hey it's mine so I'm gonna take it! :) Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment!
I fit some of those qualifications and some not.. But I have had pretty good luck with the female race. I'm actually quite slim and yet I always notice that the husky dudes with huge muscles, alot of them are kind of, should I say it?..lame! I think women like an energetic yet stable man, who's fun yet not crazy acting. Beause a girl who tries to keep it together yet just can't quite get it because her emotions always creep out from under her sleeve is just incredibly sexy to me, so I suppose the opposite is true for women. Women are always succeptible to my looking in their eyes and to my brave moves/come ons.
I'm 6'3", weigh 280LBS, have long ,muscular legs & physique, green eyes, straight,single, healthy(By the grace of ALMIGHTY GOD), slighty resemble Steve Harvey, no children nor wife(unfortunately), employed, & have my own home, & yet most women won't give me the time of day. Ah, I almost forgot, I poor & struggling, because inspite of the above list of what turns women on to us men, MONEY is the best aprodishiac to get them, period; just ask Flavor Flav.
This article was informative. I have the looks and the eyes but my confidence is lacking. I just get nervous around women, lol.
Hi Kirk,
I hear ya about some women liking guys for the money I've known a few of those women myself. It's unfortunate but true. On the flip side of the coin however, there are some women, myself included, that don't give a ^%$# about money. I could never be with a guy for money and the funny part about it is, it would gross me out to be with some fat old guy just because he had money.........no amount of money could make me or some of the women I know sleep with that kind of guy! Rich and GOOD looking guys don't exist in the real world only hollywood lol. Most rich guys I had meant in the past were arrogant f$%^s anyways and had zilch for a personality!
cool beans
:You're absolutely correct Danielle Page, most women arenot turned on by a man's money(but alot are), because I believe that if a woman, especially one who is as sexy as you are, had a choice between a man who had alot of money(think Jay-Z & or Zuckerberg(creator of Facebook)) but he was selfish, narcisstic, arrogant, cheap, rude, & unromantic, & another type of man who is intelligent, strong, generous, funny, GOD FEARING, & hard working, she would choose the the latter or hardworking man. However, I'm HARDWORKING, GOD FEARING, STRAIGHT, SINGLE, & LOOKING TO EXPERIENCE MATRIMONY & FATHERHOOD, & yet most women won't give me the tme of day. In espanol, "que sera, sera".
I know so many women that say they prefer to look at other women. Totally crushes my self esteem as a man. Where as I know a few gay men that talk about other men the way that, a straight man would talk about a woman. Complete lust and admiration in some cases or the general nah not form me thanks.
whats the name of the guy with on the pic + yummy yummy
Hi Dannielle, i've just worked out why girls are always staring at me but nothing happens, allow me to explain, im 25 years old, six foot one, muscular like a middle weight boxer, tanned skin, short dark brown hair, brown eyes, but unfortunatly im fairly shy, not too shy, I mean I can talk to girls but it's easier if they come to me first, im also very friendly, more friendly than I look, do you think girls should make more of an effort? or do you think I should pluck up the courage and if so do you think i'd get anywhere?
Hi Martin, I think you should maybe make yourself appear more approachable, as in smile more and don't have such a "heavy" look on your face. Body language is such a huge factor in any social situation. I highly recommend researching body language. When you master how to use such body language you'll definitely have a lot more women approaching you (it's all psychological and subconsciously reactive), which will benefit you by not having to necessarily approach them. One example, if we see someone with their arms folded we tend not to approach them because they are "closed" or "guarded" ......make sense? Although it wouldn't hurt to muster up some courage and approach them at times as well. Women love men with a great sense of humor so taking that into consideration I recommend you approach them with a lighthearted attitude and saying something that makes them smile. Walking up to a woman and trying to act sexy or put some sexy "move" on her will only repulse her and want to make her run. Remember, keep it light and fun and she will be butter in your hands (and maybe your lips later) yum! Good luck and keep me posted!
Idk if I'm shy or whatever. I don't thing I'm ugly but, Idk what it's with women. I don't think women prefer brown eyes though since, blue eyes are more appealing and sexier. I got blue eyes brown hair like 5 foot 10 and I'm 160 the back butt is there too. It's true most women are money hungry whores.
Hi Ryan, unfortunately there are money hungry whores as you call them in the world, but in my opinion most of these women are jaded. Jaded from men that have treated them like $#@^ in the past. These women get tired of getting treated like that after giving their hearts away and then wake up one day and say *&^% it , it's gonna be all about me. So they, like some men just start using guys for pleasure and while their at it why not get a few trinkets and meals in between. The sad part is that they are cheating themselves of finding a truly good guy and in the process hurting some men that really don't deserve that kind of treatment. I say keep your chin up and I wish you much luck. I know I would seriously hate to be single these days, it's become so crazy out there. I met my wonderfully hot man once I let go of constantly looking for "the one".
(continued from above) I just basically gave up and decided to just have fun and not to worry about it and the exact day (I'm not kidding either) I decided to do that I met my now, husband. Odd, once we clear our space of negativity and desperation that's when we attract the people we desire in our lives. Think about it. You must first fix the things that's wrong with YOU and then you'll start attracting those types of people that best fit you. Spiritually we all vibrate at the same frequency (think a tuning fork) and we attract those of the same frequency. Once we change ourselves we start vibrating at a different frequency and therefore start attracting new types of people. This so fits that old saying "why do I keep attracting the same old men/women?" Clearing your personal space of a love that you keep holding onto will also deter new loves from entering the picture, it's as if they can sense that you're heart is already taken, clear your space, change the negative things about yourself and then sit back and wait for that special person to approach you, it won't be long! Thanks for your comment and reading the article!
yo am 15 y/o am 5''10'' and relly wide back i yousto lift weights have long leags relly strong scens i train a lot curently in a football team but alsow play basket ball and base ball evry time a seson comes, i boxe too thats my hobbie but i cant seem to atract girls i mean i can score a girl but dont know what am missing?????can u help
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Dear Anonymous 15 year old, first off as a mother of 4, the oldest being 22, I would have to say you're too young to really even worry about a serious relationship. When you say you can "score" girls is that just like an occasional "hook up"? If so, you need to make sure you are being responsible protection wise. Not all girls are totally into the jocks, sure they like a nice body but they also like something going on upstairs, as in "brains". A guy you can carry on a decent conversation with that can also make you laugh is a huge key in landing any kind of chick whether you're a 15 year old hormonal kid or a 35 year old man looking for a life long partner. Keep up your sports, pay attention in school (later on those women will love that your established in a good paying career) and just have fun and don't take life too seriously, trust me, when you get older you'll have plenty of seriousness to deal with (kids, job, responsibilities, bills etc.) so don't rush it. Good luck and don't try to grow up too fast !!
Hi,
After reading your article, it is no myster that height matters. I am only 5'7", and on top of that, I don't really have the broad shoulders to build a wide back. However, I am fit and toned, but I'm just not naturally big boned or broad-shouldered (which most women like). If I get any bigger, than I might look unproportional. It seems that even really short women (5'2 or under) want men who are at least 6' tall. To compensate for my height, I try to smile more to look more approachable. Additionally, I have a decent job and I am currently going back to school to advance my career goals. Unfortunately, it seems that most women overlook me for the pretty boy (even if they know he is already married). My face isn't horrible, but it's just so plain looking, and my nose is kind of chubby. In my opinion, women care about looks just as much as men do. Based on what I have described above, is there anything else I could possibly try so that women might give me a chance and not always go for the perfect looking pretty boy?
Dearest Great Cornholio,
Love the "name" sounds like you have a great sense of humor which plays a huge factor in any woman's attraction to a male. In addition to being hilarious, walking with your shoulders back with great posture also exudes confidence, another turn on for females. Confidence is extremely sexy and if it's something even a taller, better looking guy doesn't have a woman may just write him off. Generally a shorter stature requires, unfortunately a man to amp up the goods he may have outside of the height department. If you feel that you are average looking but have a great sense of humor, confidence, clean cut you may qualify for one of those guys that will pick up on a girl that he works with or runs into quite often such as church, sporting events, the gym etc. This guy generally has casual conversation with the female he's interested in and will "grow on" the female. The guys you're describing, pretty boy, tall etc. are the types that get approached or looked at in a bar scene or somewhere where the female wouldn't normally see him on a day to day basis.
...continued from above. These are superficial attractions and most don't last in the long haul. The casual guy as I generally call guys like you,, based on your own self assessment, does better in a smaller, casual setting,..again, such as the work place, gym, church etc. These are the types of connections that are on a deeper level and tend to last because they are getting to know the "heart" of the person the "inside" which can end up making you irresistible and quite sexy to her. Trust me on this one, back in my single days that happened to me more than a few times with guys that weren't generally someone that I would be instantly attracted to at a bar etc. but getting to know them on a casual, no pressure basis made me wild for them. In addition, a positive attitude with a great smile and body language that is opened, not closed (arms folded, hunched over shoulders) also makes you extremely more approachable. Good luck and God will bless you with the right woman when your ready!
Thanks for your input, Danielle. Well, at least I now know that women like nice butts and they cannot lie. I don't consider myself as a pushover, but along with a positive attitude, what is your definition of a nice guy that women want to be with?
Cornholio-
My definition of a nice guy is one that puts the needs and desires of others above his, one that has respect for his mother (if he does this will show in how he treats women in general, something that all woman know about) he's quick to forgive and slow to anger, has patience and compassion even for those he does not know, is a great listener and above all gives people acknowledgement whether he agrees with them or not, so many people are never acknowledged i.e. "I hear what you're saying, thank you for your advice, but I think I will go this alone" or, "I'm acknowledging what you're saying, I will try to handle that in a different way next time." It's frustrating to not be acknowledged "heard" and can sometimes result in a feeling of worthlessness or that you don't matter. Everyone wants to be heard/acknowledged and if you truly care about somebody you will always acknowledge what they are saying. Follow these attributes and women will adore you or wish their man was like you.
If this is true, then why are half the world's women physically attracted (obsessed) with Justin Beiber? I think your logic is flawed. I'm glad you don't speak for all attractive women out there.
I also thought a "professional makeup artist" was trying to speak about biology and the "Alpha Male". You pull that from Wikipedia or do you actually have a degree? What a joke..
Did you pull this comment from your a@#? Or are you a joke?? Lighten up geez, walking around with your a@# that clenched all the time from being so uptight must be awful!
Hi danielle,
Read your good article , I am happily married, with 2 kids, aged and 1, I am 180cm, age 40 and reasonably fit (i run 5kmand walk 4 km daily ). I was overweight, but brought the weight down by 10kg. to 72.I have full hair, which i colorblack. Off late I have been getting looks from College girls, women.Often I am mistaken, for a college going man, and many Times I have been asked have you been married.. I also note than women seem to look more, when the entire family is with me .I believe, being proportionate, slim is also a Key to attractivenss to women, especially if you are in the dreaded middle ages.Also a Gentlesmile on your face, when looking at women, also helps..ain't it ....
uh i m never getting laid...this article just sent my confidence down d gutter
well i have none of these attributes....thanx for bringing my confidence level way down...sorry ladies but I'm italian we aren't very tall
Cool I'm 6 foot two with long legs a full butt with thick black hair, brown eyes, and I have wide shoulders and back so I guess I win.... Oh ya but woman don't care about looks
Oh and I failed to mention my point in what I said in the above comment. I have all the physical traits but stills fails to do me much good
I am a 26 year old 6'2' 205 lbs ex- collegiate athlete. I have every single one of these traits and more , even done modeling, but in my experience the physical attributes only go as far as giving you an opportunity. Your PERSONALITY and SWAG is the deciding factor. Ive been dismissed or ignored by women for a long time. I know its not my looks; I've been told countless times how goodloooking I am. I am an intense, focus person and Im a very nice guy ; however, im shy and i think maybe my body image and success attracts women that I could never imagine myself being intellectually capable of dating. Im a smart guy and need a woman who i can communicate with at a more than physical level. what can i do to attract smart, attractive and independant women who don't constantly need material items and meaningless compliments to fullfill their lives?
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