It starts when they are very young. They cry and sometimes they cry a lot. You are sleep deprived and frustrated and sometimes giving your baby what he or she wants, just feels easier than fighting what feels like another endless battle. The truth of the matter is, that if you learn to fight the good fight right from the beginning; later on, picking your battles becomes a much easier task. Here are the 3 top tips on helping your baby reach independence early.
- Let them cry- When they start crying all night long, you will find yourself climbing the walls. You want to run to the bedroom, pick him or her up, rock them in your arms, and hope they will quietly return to dreamland. However, what will most likely happen will be that he or she will continue to cry as soon as his or her little head hits the pillow. It is painful to hear but letting your baby cry him or herself back to sleep is the way to go. Of course at first, you must be there when your child is crying, but when they get close to one year old, it’s time to get tough.
- Take the pacifier out when they turn one year old- By the time they are one, it is time to pull the pacifier out and help them learn that they don’t need the pacifier to fall asleep or just stop crying. It will be hard at first. They will cry and complain, but once they are over the initial shock, they will be able to fall asleep on their own, calm themselves without help, and feel a little more independent.
- Move them out of the cradle and into a bed- One year old is the magic number. Once they are in a bed, they feel a little more independent. This is the key to a good night’s sleep for both of you. As they take baby steps to enter adulthood, the more independent they get, the less dependent upon you they become. Although this may not be desirable in your hear-of-hearts, it is the ultimate goal. Give them a little leeway and you may be surprised at the results.
Learning to let go and give your son or daughter a little freedom is always hard. Taking baby steps to push them in the right direction is the road to travel. As you continue to move them into a more independent stage, they will steadily know that you love and trust them. As they age, this will be part of their constitution.