Bad boy, bad boy. What would the ego do if it wasn’t promoting trouble? Are you in danger of being seduced by your ego? Here are the signs your ego is "trippin' the light not so fantastic:"
1. Excessive self-reverence. You keep bringing the conversation back to you no matter what the topic is. Instead of focusing on the person talking; their feelings and experiences, you make “you” the focus.
2. Always in control. Do you have to be the first in line, ride the bumper of the car in front of you, ahead of the other driver, always on the cell phone and leaving no time for contemplation or being involved with other intimately.
3. Ordering people around. Demanding perfection. You refuse to listen to contrary points of view. Demanding at restaurants.
4. Preoccupied with your own concerns, goals, accomplishments, daily experiences. With little time involved with people.
5. Publicly correcting mistakes and showing off your superior knowledge. Correcting grammar, memory lapses, etiquette to impress.
6. Withholding intimacy and closeness. You refuse to be loving if someone doesn’t meet your expectations, using any mistake as a reason to withdraw intimacy. Intimacy scares the heck out of you.
7. Need to win conversations. No communication, not sharing, not listening. While they talk you are preparing what you are going to say next.
8. Inability to give without receiving. You keep score. You give conditionally instead of unconditionally.
9. Building yourself up at the expense of others. Boasting, bragging, self-centeredness, and putting others down or making fun (bullying) of people and getting others to side in with you are your primary conversation tools.
10. Dictating or domineering. To those you perceive as smaller, weaker, younger, not as educated or knowledgeable. More bullying behavior.
When you know what your pay-offs are for each of the ten behaviors, it makes changing the behavior easier. When you are dominating others you are sure conflict will continue to exist, insuring separateness. Learning tolerance and patience will lead to having a more meaningful life and relationships.
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