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Top 10 reasons why job searching is like dating


 

Ah-where else in the world can you meet an oil tycoon, a budding fashion designer, and a janitor all in one place other than the world of dating?  Seems like there is someone out there to tickle everyone's love fancy.

But are there jobs out there to tickle your work fancy?  Some days it does not seem like it.  However, for those of you who are successful daters, think about approaching job seeking like dating.  Why?  Because to find the right one you have to be prepared to.....

10) Kiss a lot of frogs.  Much like in dating, a good job is all about the match between job seeker and employer.  As your parents probably told you the first time someone broke your heart, you are going to have to look around to find the right person.  Which leads me to number 9...

9) Go into the relationship eyes wide open.  Think about any romantic relationship where one or both parties lies about age, income, kids, weight, marital status, etc...chances are that relationship is pretty unhealthy.  This applies to job seeking too.  If you are making yourself into something that you are not because that is what you think that it takes to get hired by a particular company-you are setting yourself up for failure.  It's ok to put your best foot forward when networking, interviewing, etc...just make sure that it's your foot and not someone else's.  Don't fib on a resume, LinkedIn/Twitter profile, or in the interview-a good recruiter will always catch you sooner or later.

8) Do not wear PJ's on your date.  Going back to the best foot forward...remember to dress, act, and behave in such a manner that an employer considers themselves lucky to have you.  Think that your dream guy/gal wants someone who looks like they haven't washed their clothes in 8 days?  Well, your potential employer doesn't want that either.  Job seeking typically means that you don't have a lot of extra money to spend on fancy new interview clothes, but you can always be neat in appearance, light on perfume/makeup, and ready with a smile.  Speaking of smiles, that leads us to point number 7...

7) If he looks too good to be true, he probably is.  Who hasn't been dazzled by someone's bright smile, engaging personality, and extra charm just to find out that he or she is a wolf in sheep's clothing?  The same applies to jobs.  If you are getting job offers with little to no interviewing, make sure that it's not a scam in the making.  Someone wants you to pay a nominal fee to get started?  Run, don't walk the other direction. 

6) I don't know, where do you want to eat?  Ever been on that date where the person you are with doesn't seem to have an opinion on anything?  It can be really frustrating in love, but it can be disastrous in job searching.  Get an interview with someone and they ask you: "So what do you want to do?"..this is not the place for you to answer: "Oh, anything!"  It may seem as if you are open to any possibility in your eyes, but to a hiring manager, it sounds like you are really saying "Not a clue!".  Employers want you to WANT them-just like in dating.  You should have done your research, identified a specific job, and then have prepared a list of reasons why you are a fit for that exact job.  Eventually want to explore other positions in the company and possibly move up?  That's great-but the interview is not the place to advertise that you want something other than the job being discussed.

5) Looking for love in all the wrong places?  Tired of going to bar after bar looking for "the one" just to end up hung over, tired, and smelling of smoke?  Same applies to job searching.  If you are sitting on the job boards all day and getting no responses, stop doing the same things over and over!  Think about changing your strategy, which leads me to number 4...

4) Get out and get a life!  Common wisdom has always been that love will find you when you stop looking for it.  While this is not true in job seeking (at least not in this economy), there is some wisdom here for you Ms./Mr. Job Seeker.  If you have a highly diversified search strategy that combines both online and in person activities, eventually all of the elements of your job search will begin to work on their own. 

3) Get out and get a life-part two.  While you probably don't have the money to do all of the things that you have ever wanted to do while in job transition, you do have time to do some of the things.  Don't forget to spend a little time investing in yourself.  Go to cheap movies, check out library books, go to the Dallas Museum of Art, look on www.guidelive.com to check out events happening in your neck of the metroplex.  Much like in dating, employers will smell the desperation on you a mile away if you are letting your job search rule your life.  Balance your job seeking with some life enriching activities.  You may also find out some things about yourself along the way.

2) Think about engaging in a rebound relationship.  Looking for your next high level position?  Realize that there is a pretty good correlation between salary desired and length of search.  This is not to say that all well paid job seekers should despair.  Rather that all job seekers should consider interim work whether it's contract, temp, or volunteer.  A great way to take the focus off your own troubles is to throw that energy into work-even if you are not being paid for it.  So, while this "relationship" may not be forever, in a job seeker's case, it may help pay the bills.

1) Keep your chin up!  For anyone who has been in love and lost it, you know that there can be some low points in the process.  This is absolutely true of job seekers too.  Remember that this too shall pass, and you will once again be gainfully employed.  Until then, don't hesitate to lean on friends, family, and community if you need someone to listen, someone to help put food on the table, or someone just to care.  For those of you in DFW, think about connecting with Angel Food Ministries, Career Connection, or one of the other many organizations designed to help our community through this current unemployment crisis.

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