So recently I was asked by a few single guy friends of mine if they really had to wait three days to call a woman after meeting her. My response at first was to just laugh as this is the age old question that women have wondered about. Our thoughts are more like this "why hasn't he called, I thought he was interested" and by day three we are so depressed or mad that we have moved on!
I ran across this article from 2009 that a friend of mine wrote. So here you go guys!
So, you weigh the pros and cons:
Pro: she gave you the number! This means that, on some level, she WANTS to hear from you.
Pro: You could set yourself apart from all of the other players on the scene by being more proactive. This will show her that you are a cut above the rest whom is not necessarily interested in ONLY one thing.
Con: if you seem TOO eager, you COULD put her off of that opinion. Desperation, or even the suspicion of it, is rather counterproductive to the cause.
Con: You could set yourself apart from all of the other NORMAL PEOPLE on the scene by being TOO proactive. Again, the desperation thing comes back into play.
These are all valid points, but the only REAL question is what is it that you want to get out of your relationship with this person? If the answer is that you’re looking for a sweaty, one-night stand, then RISK calling her back after 3 days and see IF she’s into that, but be prepared for disappointment just in case. On the other hand, if the answer is that you’re looking for the opportunity to get to know this person better because you see that there is potential for something MORE meaningful, THEN call her back the NEXT day. And drop the pretense of TRYING to impress her, you’ve already GOTTEN the number, so play it cool and just be sincere about who you are and what you’re looking for. Either she responds to who you REALLY are, or she doesn’t; in which case, you move on to find someone that will. After all, rejection (though never EASY to handle) is easier to bounce back from without wondering if she was into the ACTUAL you or not.
Conclusion: If you call her after 3 days then she will think you have someone or something more important then getting to know her and two, she will know you are just after a booty call because that other "something" didn't work out. If you really want to get to know her and possibly have a lasting relationship with her then call her the next day guys!
Till next time,