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To bi or not to bi: Statistics on bisexuality

To Bi Or Not To Bi: Statistics On Bisexuality
To Bi Or Not To Bi: Statistics On Bisexuality

Q: If a person has sex with someone of the same sex does that mean the person is lesbian/gay?

A: NO! People may choose to be with a same sex partner for reasons that have nothing to do with being gay or lesbian.

Sometimes people simply want to experiment, try new or unknown things that intrigue them. For example, someone of your same sex may be physically attractive and you may even feel sexually aroused by mere observation, but that does not mean you are gay/lesbian it just means you’re alive. You can also choose to experiment with a same sex partner and in the end discover that you enjoy it but prefer the opposite sex. The most important thing is that you discover your preference.

What Is “The Kinsey Scale?”

It is a Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale, sometimes referred to as the “Kinsey Scale”, developed by Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues Wardell Pomeroy and Clyde Martin in 1948, in order to account for research findings that showed people did not fit into neat and exclusive heterosexual or homosexual categories.
After interviewing people about their sexual histories, the Kinsey team found that for many people, sexual behavior, thoughts and feelings towards the same or opposite sex was not always consistent. Though the majority of men and women reported being exclusively heterosexual and another percentage reported exclusively homosexual behavior and attractions; many individuals disclosed behaviors or thoughts somewhere in between.

Findings Added

Sexual Behavior of the Human female (1953) “It is a characteristic of the human mind that tries to dichotomize in its classification of phenomena… Sexual behavior is either normal or abnormal, socially acceptable or unacceptable, heterosexual or homosexual; and many persons do not want to believe that there are gradations in these matters from one to the other extreme.”

Kinsey Also Reported

“While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history. An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in their life. A seven point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist.”

How Do I Take The Test?

There is no test. The scale is purely a method of self-evaluation based on your individual experience, and the rating you choose may change over time.
The scale ranges from 0=Those who would identify themselves as exclusively heterosexual with no experience or desire for sexual activity with the same sex, to 6= Those who identify themselves as exclusively homosexual with no experience or desire for sexual activity with those of the opposite sex, and 1 to 5= Those who identify themselves as having varying levels of desire or sexual activity with either sex.The Kinsey Scale may not be the most comprehensive guide (and a little outdated) but it remains a good “beginners” guide to sexual orientation.

Bisexual Identities And Orientations

Since the concept of bisexuality covers identities and levels of attraction between homosexuality and heterosexuality, people who identify or are defined as such vary greatly in their attractions and sexual practices. An important aspect of bisexuality is its apparent fluidity over time. The majority of bisexuals are not attracted equally to both men and women. In fact, it is common to be more attracted to one sex for a period of time and then witch to the other. There are bisexuals who remain constant in their attraction to one gender over another, but are fundamentally attracted to both.
Bisexuality is sometimes viewed as an ambiguous state, and there often exists a certain level of confusion regarding who can be considered bisexual. For example, there are homosexuals who occasionally engage in sexual activities with members of the opposite sex who self-identify as Gay male or Lesbian instead of Bisexual. Conversely, there are self-identified heterosexuals who, at times are attracted to members of their own sex. This exemplifies the point that definitions of sexuality can be both self and socially defined. Many psychologists and theorists believe that most people are bisexual and for social or personal reasons, choose to identify strictly as Gay or Straight.

Where Do Swingers Fall Under This Category?

Swingers as a rule do not have emotional or romantic attachments to other couples and/or singles. In general, lifestyle people are seeking sexual pleasure and it may or may not be directed at the same sex. Lately the younger generation tends to be more open to bisexual experiences; not just between women but also between men.

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