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Tips to make an online or blind date enjoyable

Having dealt with the myths in my last article, now it’s time to get down to how to have a successful online or blind date. You only get one chance to make a first good impression. Here are some ways to ensure an enjoyable time and set the stage for a second date.

One of the biggest complaints from those who have been on a blind date is the boring, one-sided conversationalist. Keep your life’s story for a later date. Show more interest in your date than in telling about yourself and be a good listener. Your time together should not turn into an interview or self promotion. Try to make the conversation a balanced give-and-take, encouraging your date to talk while sharing who you are.

Avoid sensitive and controversial subjects. This means your political, religious and sexual views need to be curtailed until you’ve known each other for some time. Revealing too much about yourself to someone you barely know may backfire. Play it safe and keep the talk light and breezy.

In the same vein, keep clear of conversations about your ex’s. As much as you want to avoid the same mistakes that made your last relationship a failure, talking about it when you first meet someone will either put pressure on them or scare them off.

Prepare ahead of time for blind or online dates conversations. Some of us aren’t blessed with the gift of gab, especially if we have a tendency to be shy. Have a list of topics thought out in advance that you can talk about at length for possibility of a dreaded lag in the conversation. Who do you most admire and why? What has been the most satisfying achievement of your life? What are your hopes and dreams? What is your most treasured possession and why? What good books have you read?

Keep your first time together reasonably short. Sometimes there is a limit to the conversation two strangers can sustain when they first meet. Enjoy each others company in a pleasant, relaxing, quiet atmosphere and save the five course meal for a later date, when you’ve both realized that there is potential for the relationship to be serious. 

For more info:  If you aren't receiving responses or the ones you are getting don't meet your expectations, don't despair. Every dating site has a different database. It may be time to start over with a different dating site. For comparisons on the best dating services online, visit DateShowcase: Compare Online Dating Sites to help make the right decision on where to post your ad.

Comments

  • Curt 4 years ago

    I believe in any relationship it bodes well to be more "interested" than "interesting." And, while I can't speak from blind-dating experience, since I dated my wife since my 17th birthday and married at 21 (37+ years ago), I believe if you are truly interested in your partner, you'll have a much better chance at date #2.

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