One of the most asked questions to a relationship coach is; "Where do I find that special someone?" A person can do amazing work on themselves and then go out to find someone to share their life with, only to come up empty handed. That is when that person gets frustrated and finds 'someone right now' not 'someone forever'. And when that happens, both parties get hurt. Finding someone special for you is not always an easy task, but well worth it when you do find that special someone. Below are a few tips to help you get started.
1. Stop looking! This tip seems counterproductive if the end result you are looking for is someone special. If you stop looking how will you find them? This tip should not be taken literally. It is there to remind you of something. If you are actively out there searching for someone; you can come across as desperate. We all know what desperate bodes. If you feel yourself getting to this point stop looking, but don't stop putting yourself out there.
2. Put yourself out there. Go places you like to go. Do things with people, even other couples. Have a couple places you like to go, expand on those places to broaden your horizon. Maybe you enjoy muscle cars; go to the races with a group of friends. Perhaps you enjoy sports, join a co-ed league. If you have dogs, go to the dog park. You will be surprised of the new people you meet. Putting yourself out there will help you get noticed.
3. Try new things. Write out a list of things you want to do and one by one do them. Cross them off the list. As you do be aware of those around you. Be available and open to the idea of a relationship and you may find that special someone in the process.
4. Don't be afraid of blind dates. Blind dating has gotten a negative social stigma which is really too bad since a blind date is set up by a friend. A friend who wants to see you happy. A friend who knows you better than a complete stranger. That friend may see something in you that would go great with someone else they know. And if the date doesn't become anything special you may have increased your social circle enough to find that special someone.
5. Keep working on yourself. There is an old saying; "when we stop learning we stop living." It's important to keep living and working on yourself so you can be the best possible mate for that special someone. Relationship or Life coaches are great people to help you grow. Check them out, you may be surprised at what they can help you uncover about yourself.
6. Always dress for success. Even if you are going to the convenience store or pharmacy on the corner, it's important to put your best foot forward. Dress for success. What if that special someone is the clerk behind the counter? Dress to impress.
If these tips are not working go back to tip number one and ask yourself are you putting your best self forward. If you are then it's simply a matter of time. That special someone will become available when they are ready.
Jami McDonald is a certified hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner, life and relationship coach. She has helped many people find success in their lives. Check out her website here.