Having step children can be quit challenging at times. Right of the bat, the step children have pretty much made up their mind that they do not like the step parent and will try to make things difficult for the step parent. Parenting under such conditions can be rough if the spouse does not cooperate fully with the step parent too. Here are some tips that can help in managing challenging step children.
Tips for Managing Challenging Step Children
Plan Ahead – It is best for the step parent to plan ahead of time with the spouse as to what action will be taken with the step children. By planning ahead of time with spouse as to what action to take, the step parent knows that the spouse is on the same page as the step parent as to how to handle the step children.
Consistency – It is best to be consistent with the rules of the household. The step parent and the spouse need to be consistent with the rules of the house with the step children. Having the “Yes” mean “Yes” and the “No” mean “No” is vitally important when keeping the rules of the house in tact on a consistent basis.
Consequences – There needs to be consequences to breaking the rules of the house. When the step child breaks the rules of the house, the step parent and the spouse needs to be on the same page on a consistent basis as to what punishment to give.
After punishment – After the punishment is given, it is vitally important for the step parent and the spouse to talk to the step child or children about the reason for the punishment and to let the step child or children know that he or she is still loved by both of them.