Dating could be a very tedious process for many. The fact of choosing a possible life partner is a real challenge. Even if someone generally makes good decisions, selecting one person with whom one could spend forever with may trip them up. Here are three ideas on how to gain clarity and find the one.
Does one feel like a kid in a candy store when it comes to dating? Are there just too many options to make one choice? Does one date endlessly and cannot find one possible match? If it seems like there is a world of choices and one cannot figure out which one to choose, try narrowing the options. First, date one person at a time. This will stop the urge to compare dates to see which one is best. Next, when finding someone that fits the bill, keep dating her or him. But if there is a deal breaker, move on. Finally, focus on the idea that there is someone out there for everyone.
There are plenty ways to be happy and finding someone to share life with is one of those ways. Even if it is picking someone out of a crowd, reconnecting with an old friend, or telling the person one is dating how wonderful they are. Making a choice is vital. Look at it this way, the only other option is having someone else pick for you. When one makes their own choice, they choose the one that they want to focus their attention, effort and time on. Even if it takes time to find the right choice and even if one faces rejection, be persistent. It will pay off in the end.
What if someone does not want to be the chosen one? In this case, it is apparent that one's feelings are most into it than the other. Sometimes being chosen is hit or miss. You are their choice, but they are not your choice. This could be quite a challenging position to be in. Someone likes this person, however, they only kind of like them. Is this enough? No. The right thing to be is be honest with that person and do not prolong the courtship if they are looking for something to build a relationship. Do be a coward and let things fizzle out. Take ownership of your feelings and make the decision to be honest.