No matter how low you might feel – you can never be so low that God cannot stoop down and lift you up. You may truly feel that no one cares – there is One who does. No, there are at least two – Jesus and me.
Thanksgiving and Christmas are probably the most family oriented holidays of celebration throughout the whole year – people of faith – people of no faith – people who are mad at each other all year long, still put aside their differences to be with family – Mama wouldn't have it any other way.
But if you are physically alone this holiday season, be assured that you are not truly alone. You may feel that no one cares; but there is One who cares so much that if He carried a wallet, your picture would be inside; and if He had a fridge – your picture would be posted there. But He does not need either because He carries your picture – your image – in His heart.
He is all knowing, all present, all seeing, and all loving – and most of all – all forgiving. No matter if you are financially sound or basically poor – God has a plan for your life. He has goodness to bring to you – not what you might be asking for; but what you need. And having your needs met is far more rewarding than having your wants fulfilled – our want list just continues to grow. With Christ, we learn to live with contentment. Paul says, I have lived with want and plenty – and whatever place I find myself, I am content.
Sure, the world is in a mess. It always has been and always will be. The winds of time and change will continue to blow. There will be those who are rich and sad; and those who are poor as a church mouse and filled with gladness. It is all about the mind and what you perceive to be happiness… not somewhere down the road when things “get better” and you “get what you want.” Supposed I told you that God has something better than better and can give you far more than you could ever want.
You may be alone by choice; or you may be alone through no choice of your own. You may not be sitting down to a table laden with food – but there is food a plenty for the soul. We are always so concerned about feeding our stomachs while many have starving souls. We can be just as thankful over a can of tuna fish as a gigantic stuffed turkey. It is a matter of the heart.
You may not have any family – either near or far – you may feel ill today and not feel like being with others. You may be home-bound and seem to be forgotten – the old adage – “Out of site out of mind.” But you are never out of God’s sight and you are never out of His mind.
He knew you before you were born in your mother’s womb. He loves you with an undying love – God is love. He created you and He loves you just the way you are – He knows your every thought, each pain and sorrow. He is the answer. We only have to ask the right question. “Jesus, will you come into my heart?” With that said, you can never ever again say that you are alone. Jesus knows what it is to feel alone. He went away by Himself many times to purposely be alone; but God the Father was there.
He prayed in the Garden alone – when His disciples deserted Him - and He prayed until His sweat turned to great drops of blood – and then when He died on that cross as a sacrificial lamb for the sins of the world – He was alone – He cried out to His God and His Father – “Why have You forsaken me?” Holy as God is, He cannot look upon sin and in that moment; Jesus knew what it was truly like to be alone. We cannot go through anything that Jesus does not identify with.
But God had not left him along for long. . For joy cometh in the morning – for on the third day – God restored Christ to His former place in royalty in the heavenly realm. It has been said that you could understand a person giving their life for a good person; but Christ gave His life for us while we were YET sinners. Just as the old hymn says, “Just as I am I come to thee.” There is not one thing we can do to merit God’s love and not one thing we can do to make Him not love us.”
In the din of bright lights, the crushing noise of loud music, and the laughter of others who are going nowhere – or even in the quiet of a church pew, one can feel alone. To be alone is only a bad thing when it makes us sad. Many take the time to pull away from the world in order to think, to pray, and to praise. Many are depressed and feel that no one cares and there is no hope. Hope is not just a desire of the heart – hope is something that is bought and paid for – by someone. Christ is the Hope of the world – He bought and paid for it. We cannot pin our hope on the government, the church, our family – or any one and not be disappointed – but those who wait upon the Lord shall rise as on the wings of an Eagle.
Are you having thoughts of taking your own life? Does your life seem to be more than you can bear? Are you so angry at God – at others – that you are blinded to see that life is the best of all things? Where there is life – there is always hope. This time of the year, we seem to hear of more dear friends and family members going to be with the Lord, and sadly, the suicide rate increases because people just don’t understand how much of their life un-lived can affect others and how their untimely death can destroy others.
There are so many who are terminally ill and face the end of their days without Divine intervention. They would love to know that they would have more Christmas time with their families.
Are you so angry at being alone, angry at decisions made – that you feel you can’t go on – you can. Have you found the purpose of your life – God did not create you to be less than His purpose – God does not make “no” junk. Some people take their own lives just to get even with someone or to hurt someone – hey, they will get over it; but you will still be dead.
No matter how you came into this world – it is the way you live in this world. It has been said that all we seem to leave behind is a marker with two dates – our birth – our death with only a dash in between – what matters on this earth is the “dash” of our lives – God gives us life – and one day we will give an accounting for that life – but what comes between is what matters.
Sometimes God allows us to walk in the deep shadowy depths of the valley only to appreciate the height of the mountain – and in making the journey we can later help someone else along the way. Just as in the movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” Jimmy Stewart’s character was allowed to see what the world would have been like had he not been in it – others would have suffered. If you choose to leave this life before God’s timing others will suffer – there may be a job God has in mind for you that no one else could do and another’s life might depend on you being there.
You may have spent your life – looking for love in all the wrong places – and have been bitterly disappointed with those who professed to love you but didn’t. But God cannot tell a lie; and He says that He will never leave you nor forsake you. God hears and answers prayers – but not the selfish prayers of those who continue to live outside of His will. He will not help you to hurt yourself or any other person.
God created us to have a will of our own – He did not want us to come to Him as puppets or robots – but warm loving human beings who come to Him because we choose to. We cannot make another person love us – it has to come from their own free will and that is the way that God wants us to love Him freely.
And above all else – in your anger, loneliness, depression – addicted state – please do not harm others. Love - not hatred - changes things. When you feel there is no way out – get out – and find help – there are many ways to find help that is right and good. Perhaps your hope and help is giving hope and help to others. It’s not all about you, you know.
You may be in the military in some far off land – you may be in prison – or you may be in a prison of your own making through drugs and/or alcohol. You may have memories of holidays past with a special loved one who is no longer in this life and for them you grieve and mourn. Just remember they are not gone – just gone before.
This life is not all there is. There is life hereafter. To leave this life – takes you into the next one – the one of your choosing. Life is eternal – it is a matter of where one spends it. This life is not the end; but the beginning. The soul is eternal. We can kill the body; but we can never kill the soul.
You may be old and have outlived all your family and friends; or you may be young and feel deserted by family and friends. You may be at college, living in a mansion, or a dump; but you are not alone and you are not unloved. You just feel that way.
Have you been guilty of loving others? Are you giving so that God will give back to you heaped down and overflowing? Have you, like the Prodigal son, been living apart from those who love you with those left behind who are only waiting for that phone call – that knock on the door – to rejoice at the sound of your voice or to run to the door to hug you; but……you are just to unwilling to make that first step; that first call – with no strings attached?
Are you working on Christmas so that others could be at home with their families – are you in a hospital or another institution for care? Are you estranged from your wife/husband, your kids, or your parents because of the past? Have you made choices that have hindered relationships with others; or are you in a safe house where you cannot be mistreated again – or are you still in danger? Seek help – it can be found.
Are you on the run from something or someone? Do you feel that your mistakes will keep you from having good relationships with others and God? It does not have to be that way. There is nothing in the whole world not even with a huge price tag that can replace the feeling of peace and knowing that a Holy God loves you with an undying love. Do you love Him back? Are you willing to love Him back and experience a changed and purpose filled life?
No, you are not alone – there are millions of other people who are going through just what you may be – or there have already “been there, done that." If you are reading this from a computer; you have the world at your finger tips – reach out to help others – call a friend; they may be alone or lonely and would be thrilled to hear your voice.
Christmas Day will come and go – but God is forever.
Seek and ye shall find” Look for ways that you can bring joy to others and watch how that joy grows and spills over on you.
Are you in crisis? Please call 1-800-273-TALK There is help with hope.
Are you feeling desperate, alone or hopeless? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.
Their web site has much to offer with just a click or two.
There is a special tab to click if you are a soldier or veteran. There is a Lifeline section where others share their stories about their thoughts of suicide.
There is help – through God – and through these people who could be anywhere else in the world – but they are waiting by the phone for your call – because they care; and they are there and that makes you not alone.
But you don’t even have to dial a number to get God and His line is never busy.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6
Come unto me ye who are burden and heavy laden, and I will give you rest!”
Suicidal thoughts may come from a type of illness or a lack of some chemical in your body – it can come from excessive anger toward others and the world – there is hope and help and love. With life there are answers to be found.
Dear God. I ask you just now that you speak to the heart of anyone who is alone this Christmas and especially that one that may be thinking that suicide is the answer when we both know that it is not. Help them to reach out to others – and keep reaching until they find that one with a soul that has been touched with the Divine and who loves them and cares for them and who will help them to walk in the light – not in the light of the world – but the light of Your love and protection. Lord, help them to know just how wonderful they are and how they make a difference. Amen
If you are feeling pressed down, depressed and without answers and hope, call that number or call someone. You are not alone.