Are you a night owl or a lonely, desperate singleton?
I listen to a lot of little birds on Twitter. The great thing about it? I get to hear all the tales from the trenches - experiences that people are having RIGHT NOW in online dating. Lucky you, dear readers, I get to share this bleeding edge feedback.
A lovely lady on Twitter pointed out something that I haven't thought of in a long time:
TIMESTAMPS.
Think of it this way... you get a long, rambling email from someone who seems really interested in you. You check the timestamp and it was sent at 1 am on a late Friday night / early Saturday morning.
What might you assume about this person? Are they a night owl? Or are they really desperate and alone on a weekend night and sending that same email to everyone?
On the other hand, think about seeing that same email, but sent at 7 pm on a Tuesday. Your mind envisions a person, home from work, having finished a good dinner, and sitting at the computer to find their perfect match.
Is this oversimplifying things? Sure. But that tweet I saw a few days ago proves that people ARE considering timestamps when deciding whether or not you're a desperate singleton or someone worth getting to know. Food for thought, no?
On the subject of late nights... don't drink and wink. More on that in another post.
Comments
What about blog posts at 1:30am? My drunken tweets dont count ;)
Just goes to show how trivial people are. Always looking for an excuse to not get involved! These are the people who should be avoided-not the night owl.
Dan -- if thats the case, then why have the people write any form of info about themselves. People will judge you simply by saying you like Dave Matthews .. If you dont like Dave, and they do .. you may think they are a freak .. simpler reasons have evloved
Really people??? As if we don't scrutinize enough, we should add timestamp to the list?? It's hard enough out there without having to worry about what time I'm sending or recieving messages from potentials. Get over it.
I hit my stride post 11 pm. Which is why I generally sleep until at least 9 or 10 am. :)
I agree that it's petty (and a bit stupid), but there ARE people out there who will wonder a bit about seeing an email sent at 2 am.
If you're getting zero responses, it's something to consider changing in your email habits.
If you're cool with the amount of people emailing you, then don't worry about it. :)
If they think I am a loser for being up late on a night they consider a party night, well they're gonna think I'm a loser for a lot more reasons and wouldn't be interested anyway. I (try to) make it clear that I don't fit in a mold so that the ladies who want a stereotype realize I'm not one.
Picky women are always going to be picky, and if they are looking for a reason to not email you they will find it regardless.
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