Don't send your date into a frenzy to leave.
Here's a quick list of things you shouldn't mention on a first date. There are exceptions to every rule, of course, but these are general guidelines. (Also, should you want to get out of a bad date, these are great things to discuss!)
Religion: Unless you share the same one, of course. Catholics beware, there are people who believe Catholics aren't Christian. (And here I thought all you had to do was believe in Jesus to be Christian...)
Politics: Generally a bad idea except when you share similar views. If your profiles both listed volunteering for the Obama campaign, you'll definitely want to share stores! Otherwise, live and let live.
Sex: Ladies, discussing sex sends up giant green lights to a guy saying either "She's into me!!" or "What a whore." It's your risk. Guys, most women out there want a romantic relationship. Bringing up sex on the first date can make her feel like you're just interviewing her to be a bed buddy.
Medication: It seems everyone is on something these days. However, don't color your date's opinion of you by admitting up front that you're on Lithium and you used to be pretty crazy before you got your meds.
Money: Especially during a recession, it's best to avoid the touchy subject of money. From your pre-date discussions, you have an idea of the person's job (or lack thereof) and can figure out the Who Pays? question before it even comes up.
Ex-Relationships: Try to steer clear of these. It's like the "What are your weaknesses?" question in a typical interview. If you get asked, answer in a positive light.
Biological Clocks: Ladies, it may be tempting to blurt out on the first date that you want to be married and pop out three babies before you hit 30, but don't do it unless you want to scare the poor boy away.
Comments
your last one made me laugh. i have guys break that rule all the time.
I must admit I deliberately mention most of these things either in my profile or on the first date, and I'm pretty happy with the results.
I'm left of Mao Tse Tung, and spend a lot of time exporing different mystical paths, including some fairly spooky-looking ones, so I mention those in my profile rather than wasting my time with people who will shriek and run away when those things come out.
I usually do a Reader's Digest version of my dating history if a first date seems to be going well. But that version consists of saying that I'm on good terms with all my exes but one--how much I say about the one depends on how interested they seem.
Sex usually comes up, but us gay guys tend to be more open about that among each other, so maybe it's just us.
Meds and biological clocks don't apply for me, so maybe I would avoid those on first dates if they did.
I do agree that general financial position is best established before you meet, though when circumstances allow I've insi
I'm 25 never had a date and I'm still a virgin.I also have a foul odor around my gentials even after I wash in a shower so what do I do about this problem
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