Breaking up is hard to do. And there's never an easy way to end things with someone. Even when you try to let them down easy, sometimes it seems to come out wrong. But when you know the relationship isn't going well, you have to end it. So as awkward and uncomfortable as it always is, you have to break up sometimes. Just make sure you think it through and do it right. Here are a few tips to help you through your next break up.
Don't do it via text.
With technology the way it is today, we are just way too reliant on the convenience of doing things quickly and as easily as possible. And with something as difficult as breaking up, it only makes sense to rip the band aid via text right? Wrong! Text messaging someone is the absolute worst way possible to end a relationship. If there is someone you were just texting back and forth, that would be the only acceptable time to end it via text. At that point you could let them know via text message that things aren't working out. Or you could just take the easy way out and stop texting them back. But if you have been dating someone or are actually in a relationship, you owe it to that other person to end things in a more respectful way.
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Don't drag it out.
If you know you want to end things with someone, you have to end it right away. Be open and honest and communicate with them so they know how you're feeling. There is no good way to break up with someone, but if you drag it out for weeks, months, or longer, you will have wasted so much of that person's time (and yours).
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Don't punk out.
When you decide you want to break up with someone you have it all figured out - in your head. You've talked it over with friends, you've called your mom and she agrees, and you've rehearsed the script over and over again in your head. But that's all super easy when you're not around the person you want to break up with. Once you actually see them, it becomes pretty difficult to get out everything you want to say. Seeing them face to face can be quite challenging. But you have to put on your big boy or big girl pants and just do it. Don't back out just because you don't want to hurt their feelings.
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Make it a break up date.
The best way to break up with someone is to make it a pleasant experience for the both of you. You don't have to make it awkward. And it doesn't have to be so painful. Making it like a date will ease the event for both of you. You don't necessarily have to go out for a fancy dinner or even mini golf. But shoot for something like a park or a promenade where the atmosphere is nice. You could even do it at your house, but try to pay attention to the aesthetics. How's the lighting? How's the atmosphere? If you sit them down on a bright sunny day and explain that things just aren't working out and you think you'd both be better apart, the sunlight will lighten the mood a bit and they might be less likely to leave upset or angry.
At the end of the day, no one likes to hurt another person and breaking up with someone is bound to hurt them regardless. Whether it's been three months, a year, or three years, you have formed some type of attachment to that person and you will both experience a certain degree of pain. (Of course the person doing the breaking up will be much less broken up about it!) But the idea is to be an adult about it and be as open and honest as possible.
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What do you think? What's the best way to break up with someone?
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