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The uninvited friend

The uninvited friend is the most curious of the bunch. They are the kind of friend that just happen to be there oftentimes when you least expect it. They can be friends of friends, neighbors, coworkers, or even secret admirers who plot their way into your life whether you like it or not.

In the series 'Sister, Sister' Tia and Tamera Mowry learned to love their uninvited friend Roger (Marques Houston).
In the series 'Sister, Sister' Tia and Tamera Mowry learned to love their uninvited friend Roger (Marques Houston).
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Tia and Tamera had an uninvited friend on their hit series 'Sister, Sister' named Roger
Tia and Tamera had an uninvited friend on their hit series 'Sister, Sister' named Roger
Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images

I suppose its an oxymoron that someone uninvited can even be a friend but it happens more often than is realized. Sort of like Roger (played by Marques Houston) in 'Sister, Sister' the 90's sitcom starring Tia and Tamera Mowry where their neighbor comes over for absolutely no real purpose but to gawk at the beautiful girls he finds living next door. It can be annoying, at first, but somehow he manages to grow on them over the course of the years.

The idea of an uninvited friend may even seem kind of creepy, at first, but when you think about it the people we sit next to at work could fall into this category as well. If you've ever sat next to someone unwillingly but end up talking to them and getting to know them, technically, they weren't necessarily invited bur assigned and whether you like them or not there are times, even if only for a season, you learn to befriend them even if just for the sake of being professional for the time being.

The worst kind of uninvited friend are the ones who eventually wish you ill will. They can be jealous friends of friends who are, unbeknownst to them, on their way out of a new friend's life or those who come across as friends, initially, but end up behaving like groupies or semi-stalkers only becoming friends because of circumstance or secretly obsessing about a person and plotting their way into certain circles.

No matter the circumstance, uninvited friends can either warm up to you or completely turn you off. They exist where you least expect them and sometimes manage to wiggle themselves into integral parts of your life. In the end, you determine if they end up as friend or foe.

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