The truth about lies, everyone tells them and they always come to light. Is there ever an appropriate time to lie? Yes. But you have to be prepared for your lie to come back and bite you. You also have to make sure you have the energy to keep up with the lie and fully understand the possibility of having to tell additional lies.
Often times when you are in a relationship the thing that brings about lying is jealousy. If you fear that your partner will be jealous of something you’ve done you may choose to leave certain details out that are not vital to the story. For example if you go out with your girl friends and a guy approaches you. He buys you drinks all night and tells you how beautiful you are and asks you for your number, when you get home you will probably leave the part about the guy coming on to you out when you recap the night for your boyfriend. Why? Because you don’t have the energy to answer all of your boyfriend’s questions about what the guy look like, why did you talk to him for so long, why would he keep buying you drinks if you weren’t reciprocating his flirting? The questions go on and on. It just seems easier to not even broach the subject.
So how do you avoid lying in your relationship? It is not a certainty that you will be able to but there are some things you can do to lessen the likeliness of it.
First you must pay attention to how you react to what your partner tells you. If you fly off the handle every time he tells you about a girl that likes him or a friend of his that wanted to become more, he will stop telling you things that he knows will upset you. Never let him know you are jealous. It isn’t an attractive feature to have. No one wants to have to deal with someone being jealous all the time.
Never call him a liar. People in general do not appreciate being called a liar even if they are. If you feel that you have caught him in a lie try to get him to admit what he has done. It should be easy enough considering most of the time someone that lies has lied so much they will eventually struggle with keeping their untruths together.
And lastly always be honest. If you are doing your part to keep lies out of your relationship your partner may appreciate this about you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If not, then it’s time to move on. If you are having trouble letting go of someone that doesn’t deserve you please see my article, “The best way to get over someone is to get someone new.”
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