Tiger Woods and wife Elin Nordegren
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This writer asked noted Long Island sex therapist and author Dr. Joel Block, "Why do men like Tiger Woods cheat on their wives?"
Dr. Block: “Like many child stars – I think he didn’t live his childhood, and he is living it now. He started playing golf intensely with his dad at age 2. I think he missed his childhood, and so he’s playing around now.”
Q: What about average men – why do men cheat?
Dr. Block: "At the root, especially for men, there is a diluting of intimacy. For most men, vulnerability equals weakness. In a real love relationship, there is vulnerabilty. Lots of times for men, I think that they dilute the vulnerability by having lovers or mistresses, even if it’s flings."
Q: Are women different?
Dr. Block: "For women I don’t think [affairs are] usually about sex, it’s usually about attention, intimacy, friendship.
"A big factor behind affairs for both is a sense of loss – loss is not just about someone dying, it takes many forms: getting older, feeling a loss of youth. It could be a kid going off to college – even if the kid was a pain in the neck, this represents a change in your life and a loss. It could be a guy at work who feels he did not accomplish enough in life.
About Tiger Woods mistresses, Block said, “It’s the intersection of temptation and opportunity. A lot of guys are frequently tempted but they don’t have the type of opportunity that he has.”
“People are quick to judge, but I don’t know how it would be to be in [Tiger Woods’] shoes, have a billion dollars, and have beautiful women throwing themselves at you.”
“Tiger Woods, lives in a different world than most of us live in. Will he be humble enough to enter treatment and not think his is too good for this?”