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How many of you readers have already found out that your spouse is not perfect after all? Congratulations! You are at least to stage two in your relationship.
The "Disillusionment" stage, also known as the "Adjusting to Reality" stage, is where we find out that our partners are, indeed, fallible. In the "Honeymoon" stage, we saw no flaws or foibles in our angelic partners. We were deceived, in part, by our biological processes that were busy pumping us full of "feel-good" hormones. Unfortunately, stage two requires us to start coming down from our emotional mountain top experience.
Some of the common experiences that people share in this stage of a relationship are as follows:
- We begin to establish our roles in the relationship.
- Behavioral patterns surface. The bad habits that were once "cute" are now annoying. Anger and withdrawal patterns also become evident.
- Intense conflict can begin to erupt as expectations are set and boundaries lines begin to be drawn.
As discouraging as this stage can be, especially after coming out of the intensely pleasurable "Honeymoon" stage, the goal of this stage of the relationship is to focus on learning how to communicate with eachother and work on other problem solving skills.
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It is so important to get to know someone before you make that lifelong committment
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