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The spiritual connection in a marriage

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Some may say that the spiritual connection in a marriage has do with love, and usually the sexual connection between couples. But, it is important to know that marriage’s covenant connection runs way deeper than that. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. Think about this verse and what it may mean to you. The word “cleave” is important here.

From, “Cleave – You’ve probably heard this verse at least one hundred times. Every wedding, every sermon about marriage, every book and video from a Christian perspective ends up with this verse somewhere in the subject matter. But what no one told you is that the Hebrew verb here is not the one we would have expected, especially if we thought that becoming one flesh had anything to do with sex.

If you really want to see what God has in mind, you’ll have to do some deeper investigation.” See, the importance of connection is so much more important that just our on the surface thoughts and feeling. So many couples have divorced over a thought or feeling. Sure, there are some deal breakers that come with an unhealthy marriage, we’re not denying that.

Addictions, abuse and infidelity are major game changers for most couples. But let’s focus on two good-willed people who struggling with those surface thoughts and feelings and are searching to understand marriage. The verb here is davaq. It means cleave or cling. It’s about stickiness. But it probably isn’t the verb we would have used. You see, davaq is a middle of the road, passive response verb, best suited for gluing things together.

It isn’t the passionate, relationship-oriented verb that characterizes the love action we want in erotic intimacy in marriage. In fact, it’s more about sticky wet clods of dirt (Job 38:38) or fastening crocodile scales (Job 41:9) than it is about passionate, sexual embrace. The commitment that comes with this kinds of connect is vital. Your spiritual strength as a husband and wife is the foundation.

Your spiritual “A” game is what will make or break your marriage, not bedroom “A” game as some would think. Come on now, we all know that even couples who report having the greatest sex life are divorcing too. Davaq does not carry the emotional, erotic, passionate nuances we expect. Davaq is about deliberate commitment. Even when it is used in hostile circumstances, it is about willful, considered attachment.

Ruth, Laban and the men of Proverbs are not making choices based on emotional overload. This helps us understand why Genesis 2:24 uses davaq, not hashaq (the verb for adhering to someone in love). Marriage is a deliberate commitment to stick together. It is not based on emotional, physical or psychic attraction. It has very little to do with how we feel. 1 Corinthians 13:11 says, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child; I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”

Everything you do in and outside of your marriage, positive or negative, with good people or bad, healthy or unhealthy; has some sort of spiritual influence on your marriage. Unfortunately if you’re fueling your selfish needs causing your spouse to react to their thoughts and feelings, this God given blessing of a covenant can become brittle.

This connection requires that you be aware of all of each other’s needs. Commitment to a spouse is all inclusive; financially, emotionally and spiritually. But, just as importantly, he or she needs you to be doing all the right things outside of the home. Be where you say you’re going to be and do right be your spouse. Don’t let people, places or things create unneeded consequences for your marriage.

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